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Post by DJgrrl on Mar 28, 2014 14:40:43 GMT -5
Does or has anyone here tried outside help from Al anon ? I am currently waiting for my appointment with a Social Worker. I was told that she is on the phone with someone in crisis. I talked to her yesterday and told her I was going somewhere last night- out of town_ that might help ( or something like that ). I'm not sure she liked that I wouldn't tell her where I was going. I did go to an Al anon meeting. It was a Social Worker / Counsellor that I first saw many many years ago that told / referred me to Al anon. Some days I wish she did not refer me ! Before that I saw a Psychiatrist that my dad use to see. It was after my dad's death that I asked my doctor ( the same as my dad's - he was *the family* Doctor at the time). The psychiatrist did ask me about death or my dad ?!! And I couldn't talk about him. It wasn't until I switched to a female doctor.. who said I could come in just to talk - twice a week! I guess I was in a depression and grieving... She must have saw that ! Sadly.. she did not stick around and I ahd to find others to talk to.
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Post by BW on Mar 31, 2014 12:37:31 GMT -5
Hi DJ
So glad to see you popping in.. Regardless which recovery room we are in many of us do require some outside professional help and there is no shame in that. The only thing we in the rooms can offer is our own experience strength and hope.
It doesn't matter if it is grief-- life on life's terms--anger management or the need for additional coping skills ...There are professionals that often times are needed. I sought out professional even to teach me how to pray and mediate in addition to grief issues as well as depression.
For me the "willing to go to any lengths" includes seeking out professionals to help me to let go of old ideas and develop new habits on this journey because it truly is so much easier to stay clean and sober than it is to GET clean and sober
You are often thought about and I continue to hold you up on prayer
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Post by DJgrrl on Mar 31, 2014 16:10:44 GMT -5
Hi BW.. I have sought a lot of outside help. Lately it has not been helpful. Just wondering if I should send you a private message or post it here ? I often wonder if some of the professionals have had the program or not... or maybe in their family or friends ??
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Post by BW on Apr 2, 2014 11:08:09 GMT -5
Hi DJ You can always send me a pm... I do need to mention I can not always get in here as often as I would like to so please be patient...I will respond tho as soon as I am able to. Always remember or at least try...professionals may or may not walk the journey of recovery...some may but not always.... I have met some in my professional life when I was working that have been trudging this journey also in the rooms yet many are not. Bottom line tho...they are all human just like us capable of being imperfect with all the imperfections, liabilities, assets & unique qualities that we pocess. Also it is important to remember when the student is ready the teacher will appear.. That is to say, for me, I go in with the qualites and abilites that thie program teaches me are important and essential...those of open mindedness, willingness and honesty. For me, I pray that God leads me to the person that I need to help me to heal. Yes I learned that on this journey of recovery as well...Not every one is trust worthy..The Big book of alcoholics anonymous tells us to trust God and clean house...No where does it say to trust people...Instead it says.."Trust God and love people"..So when I trust God copletely, He leads me to those that are trust worthy. Therefore I have learned to live both prayerfully and gratefully thus I pray that God leads me those that will help me to heal. The book uses the word "discretion" 2 times...that is not a lot...yet it is so very important. Discretion is a gift that I have learned to pray for..It means we do not have to be an open book for everybody...if we were to use Biblical terms it is synonymous with "discernment" God allows us to discern who we share our innermost feelings and thoughts with so that we are not ridiculed, judged, put down etc. We are His children and in that we are very special and dearly loved. He does not want his children to be abused, neglected or to suffer. Further He wants us to come to Him with all our needs and petitions. Curl up in His lap today DJ...Feel His comfort and His peace...One litle suggestion tho...Try not to look up His sleeve to see what tomarrow brings ...Just enjoy being there in His lap. It truly is wonderful, soft and peaceful
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