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Post by caressa on Jan 1, 2011 8:25:44 GMT -5
Acceptance of our past, acceptance of the conditions presently in our lives that we cannot change, brings relief. It brings the peacefulness we so often, so frantically, seek. We can put the past behind us. Each day a new beginning www.hazelden.org/web/public/thought.view?catId=1920A good read! The end of a year, the beginning of a new one. A good opportunity to leave to past in 2010 and make a new beginning in 2011. Once I find acceptance, I can move on. What was was! What is in today is! What is in tomorrow, is unknown! It doesn't have to be the same as the past, when we live in today and make healthy choices. I can change the old tapes and patterns, make new ones to take into the future, with the help of my Higher Power. When I make Him/Her a part of the equation, things will not turn out the same unless I wish to repeat past mistakes and bring the past into my today. Each day is a new beginning. So have a good one! I am the one who controls the 'play' button. I can also rewind and play the tape over and over, or I can erase it and make a new tape. |
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Post by BW on Jan 2, 2011 16:08:51 GMT -5
What comes to my mind as I read this today is that acceptance and the practice of it allos me the opportunity to be open to learning unconditonal love...as well as the ability to not judge others or myself...
My neighbor stopped in this morning and often we get into conversations regarding how her family judges her.. then she in turn becomes very judgemental & critical about herself. She had just come from church where the lesson was on acceptance. My thoughts come from this conversation with her. When I surrender to the God of my understanding who has already accepted me as His child, flaws and all, then too in following His will for my life it follows then that acceptance then means that it incl;udes unconditional love and unconditional is just that unconditional...without conditions...no exceptions therefore no judgements.... it is what it is...we are who we are and each individual makes the decision to change....not be criticized into change
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Post by caressa on Jan 14, 2011 14:20:51 GMT -5
For many years, I didn't know the wisdom to know the difference. I still hung onto the controlling ways of my past and still wanted to fix things or do things, finding it hard to wait for God or to allow others to do for me or give them a chance to grow and do for themselves.
I know when everyone told me to quit smoking, I dug in my heels and continued to smoke. I told them, "If you are going to pray for me, do it quietly so I don't hear. If I hear you, I just get more determined to continue doing." I get the old attitude, "Don't tell me I can't or shouldn't, watch me!"
Criticism and being told what I should do really got my dander up. In today, I embrace change. I don't mind criticism if it is done with a kind heart and said in a non-intrusive way.
Again, I could accept the fact that I needed to quit smoking but unless I followed it up with action, and changing my attitude, I couldn't quit.
Acceptance is part of the process of change: awareness, admittance, acceptance, attitude, action. It is a big part of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Until I find that acceptance, I can't let go.
Grieving is just not about death, it is about loss, change due to circumstance in our life and they are all the same process.
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Post by caressa on Jan 2, 2013 17:30:50 GMT -5
Very much needing acceptance in today and every day. It is the key to recovery for me. Accepting what is knowing it is subject to change. What was is no more. Leaving the past in the past, and accepting today as it comes, one day at a time.
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Post by Lin on Apr 25, 2013 9:15:35 GMT -5
I find lately that I am having to practice acceptance more when it does not deal with alcoholism at all. Lately I am having to accept that my husband has severe health issues and his choices do not help him get better. I am accepting that he is a grown man and he is making those choices. I also have had to accept that my life has been forced to change. I don't have as much freedom to do things away from the house as I used to. Part of that acceptance has been getting lots of rading done with y Kindle. It's a good way to spend my time and not feel like I am sitting home being bored all day.
Accepting does not mean I have to LIKE something. It just means I accept that this sis the way it is right now.
LIN
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Post by SunnyGirl on Apr 25, 2013 14:29:58 GMT -5
Acceptance is something we all need no matter
what's going on in our lives. I agree Lin, if we
can't change a situation we don't have a choice
about accepting it. We can fight change, but if
it's meant to be it makes life easier if to accept
it sooner rather than later.... hugs, SG
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.