People Pleasing

[caressa]

This was one of my biggest defects of character. I lived my life through others. I was out to please you so you would love me because I didn't love myself.

My addiction was Other People. The more I had in my life, the more people I had who loved me.

I gave up a piece of me, every time I picked up a drug. People were part of my drug, getting new people to accept and love me. I needed you to validate me because I could never find it within myself.

Thanks to this program, I no longer have to do that. It is okay to be me. I have a Higher Power who loves me the way I am, warts and all. I had to learn to accept myself, so I didn't keep looking outside of myself to make me feel better.

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[BW]

"To thine own self be true" holds special meaning to those of us who have been the gamut of having been a people pleaser..There truly is a great deal of freedom in coming to know who we truly are. It is only thru working the steps that I have come to know who I am and that it is ok to ve wh I am and further that it is ok to set healthy boundaries.

[majestyjo]

Just the other day I was sharing with some one the other day, how I use to say those words, "If you are happy dear, I am too." Every time I picked up, I lost a piece of myself.

There wasn't much 'me' left, and I not only had to find myself, I had to reinvent myself, to find a person that please me. I was told to be my own best friend.