Feelings

[caressa]

We are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I cannot feel my way into better behavior, I must behave my way into better feelings.

- Pocket Sponsor

Remember getting quite upset because someone was disagreeing with what I was saying. I was trying to express how I felt, and couldn't figure out why they felt they had the right to say what I was feeling was right or wrong. They were my feelings, my experience, strength and hope.

I was later able to see, that the person had probably been where I was at and knew what I was going through. Not sure if they were just trying to give me some good orderly direction or just telling me I was wrong to think the way I was thinking.

I also had to learn to identify a now feeling that may have strings attached to my past. If I haven't properly mourned something or completely let it go, then it could be attached to an old reality and is not applicable in today.

It doesn't mean the feeling is wrong or right, it just means it is time to change it and when I recognize it for what it is, I don't have to act out in it, I don't have to have fear, I can turn it over to my Higher Power and ask for help.

I might not want to feel a certain way, then I can accept the feeling for what it is, turn it over, feel it and then let it go. In order to let go, I have to apply the five As: awareness, admittance, acceptance, attitude and action.

Acting out a feeling with attitude never took me very far!

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[SunnyGirl]

Excellent topic ((((Caressa)))) thank you for sharing.....


"Feelings are, our GPS system for life, when your supposed to
do something, or not supposed to do something, your emotional
guidance system lets you know." - - Oprah Winfrey


There’s nothing wrong with feelings, how could there be
something wrong with feelings if they’re only feelings! We
are not in control of our feelings, they just pop up. Why
do we blame ourselves for something we can’t control? We can
only control the effort we make in our life, but not results.
Emotions, thoughts and feelings are random....

Learning something or being taught something, when you were
growing up doesn’t necessarily mean what you “learned” was
healthy, good for you, factual, rational, or true. Many of my
feelings I have today were cultivated by me..... others may not
agree with what I feel, but that just it, they are mine!

I can be a very weepy person, a good sad movie or book will
move me to tears. and often the happiest moments of my
life have brought even more tears! No one can tell someone
else how they should be feeling but prolonged depression
can be very serious. Finding the way out of that black hole
can be very difficult without help..... Today I feel happiness
around me and it makes me want to spread it around even
more! Have a beautiful day!

Peace on the journey, SG

[majestyjo]

I was asked in treatment, "What makes you happy?" I didn't know. I had lived my life through others all of my life. Learning to be happy was part of my journey. It was a process, discovering what was mine and what was someone else's pleasure that really didn't sit well with me in today.

I had suppressed my feelings for so long and it took a long time for many to surface; and then I had to learn to identify and process them.

[caressa222]

Mentioned this to a friend tonight. The woman asked me how I was feeling. I said I didn't know If I knew, I wouldn't be in the treatment facility with her.

Just because we have a feeling, we don't have to act on it. It is what I did for so many years. I also chose not to act on them externally, but would internalize, which made me a very sick individual by the time I found recovery.