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Post by majestyjo on Dec 1, 2014 22:43:12 GMT -5
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 2, 2014 10:52:53 GMT -5
December 2
Today's Thought:
For me, a sponsor was, and is, a good thing. I was lucky enough to get a good sponsor with the first one I picked. The key word, of course, is "good." Sometimes you need to try out a few before you find a good one.
Submitted By:
Marty
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 4, 2014 2:57:10 GMT -5
December 3
Today's Thought:
God will put the people or person in my path when its time to make amends to them. Which means to me, I do not have to seek out anyone I apologize too. Thank goodness because there are people in my past I do not want to confront.
Submitted By:
Deb
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 10, 2014 18:08:11 GMT -5
December 4
Today's Thought:
I would often find myself sitting in a bar half drunk wondering what the hell happened. The last decision I recalled making was to go straight home without drinking. I remembered walking into the bar, but I didn't remember deciding to do that. It was as though my brain had short-circuited (the "mental blank spot" AA's speak of) and my legs had developed a mind of their own, walking me into the bar.
Submitted By:
Larry
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 10, 2014 18:08:41 GMT -5
December 5
Today's Thought:
She supplies him with all the alcohol he can handle - I worry still for his safety but I have to remember it's not my concern and he's on his own now to deal with the circumstances. I do know I did the right thing for myself.
Submitted By:
Jill
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 10, 2014 18:09:06 GMT -5
December 6
Today's Thought:
I have seen people become sponsors and turn into something I consider very unattractive, thinking that the title gives them free rein to take over and control a sponsee's every move and thought. , I did get a sponsor that I was able to develop some sort of relationship with. She was there to help me understanding this stuff when I approached her.
Submitted By:
Bette
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 10, 2014 18:09:25 GMT -5
December 7
Today's Thought:
My husband and I have found that the Steps, Traditions, and Concepts work very well in our relationship. We have never had a fight. That does not mean we agree on everything, but we both know that it is perfectly normal for each of us to have opinions and ideas that are different from one another.
Submitted By:
Elise
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 10, 2014 18:09:45 GMT -5
December 8
Today's Thought:
Ask your wife and children if you need to quit. Ask your Mother or Father, or anyone else that loves you. You might be surprised how they view you and your 'success.'
Submitted By:
Ming
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 10, 2014 18:10:06 GMT -5
December 9
Today's Thought:
This means that each day I have work to do. I can't declare myself cured and then go and live like I use to. I have decisions to make on a daily basis that sometimes I don't like, and I don't want to make them. But the fact remains that I have to.
Submitted By:
Stanette
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 10, 2014 18:10:42 GMT -5
December 10
Today's Thought:
One night, it all changed. I just figuratively threw up my hands, thinking there has to more to this life than what I had at the time, and started my fourth step. I called my sponsor, and he said, "so you finally learned step three."
Submitted By:
Stanette
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 12, 2014 20:50:05 GMT -5
December 11
Today's Thought:
I finally got tired of being terrorized by his fits of rage and acts of destruction and filed for divorce. I am not as scared at the idea of being able to manage financially on my own as I am by his tantrums and verbal abuse. And the first step was going to Al-Anon regularly!
Submitted By:
Dancer
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Kept waiting for the right time to leave, ended up asking him to leave. I had 50 cents in my wallet, had no food in the cupboards and in the refrigerator. It was the Royal Canadian Legion, his second home that gave me a food voucher for $50. to get food until I could contact Mother's Allowance on Monday. My friend was a bartender there. Her husband came in uniform to give me the check after me going over to cry on her shoulder. I left and came home, and thought, I am not giving him that power and not sitting on no pity pot, and met her husband at the door. It was an unlikely source, but God meets our needs. It took me several years later to find Al-Anon, but it was there I found myself.
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 12, 2014 20:51:06 GMT -5
December 12
Today's Thought:
My 17-year=old son started using and I realized I was setting the same example for him that was set before me growing up in an alcoholic home. I wanted to help my boy. Little did I know that I had to help ME first.
Submitted By:
Deb
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 13, 2014 8:08:27 GMT -5
December 13
Today's Thought:
There are a lot of people who will say that there isn't anything in the Big Book that says you have to have a sponsor. This is true. Sponsorship isn't actually part of the program of Alcoholics Anonymous, (other than the need to work with others) it's part of the fellowship. I believe a sponsor is a pretty necessary part of getting sober.
Submitted By:
Elise
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 14, 2014 8:10:33 GMT -5
December 14
Today's Thought:
The "x" factor was there before I took my first drink! What manifests in me as as alcoholic is that I become someone else, I lie to impress others, I spend money I don't have and do awful things that I would never do without drinking.
Submitted By:
Sam
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 15, 2014 10:40:04 GMT -5
December 15
Today's Thought:
Where does it say that you are powerless over people, places, and situations in the Big Book? You are powerless over alcohol. Period. That's it. When you don't drink it you are not powerless. Power has been restored as long as you you don't take the first drink.
Submitted By:
Eakspeak
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 16, 2014 8:06:19 GMT -5
December 16
Today's Thought:
When I'm feeling good about myself, I can readily admit my mistakes, make amends and move on. To hell with other people's mistakes -- quite frankly I could care less if they get 'caught' or apologize or whatever.
Submitted By:
Rose R.
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 17, 2014 11:37:47 GMT -5
December 17
Today's Thought:
I have let all my close friends know I am in recovery. One of them could not deal with it. I tried to explain, but they just could not accept it and responded by staying on the attack. I have detached from them as much as it pains me.
Submitted By:
Grace _______________
Had this happen to me several times. Sadly for the most part, it was their own denial. If I had a problem, just maybe they had one too. mj
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 18, 2014 8:21:42 GMT -5
December 18
Today's Thought:
I too blamed myself and thought, oh if only I'd done things differently, blah blah blah. Someone at an Al-Anon meeting said she treated all her relationships like "please let me fix you so then you can fill the hole in me." Bingo, that was me, in addition to the fact that I was dealing with a sociopath.
Submitted By:
Molly
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 19, 2014 10:50:00 GMT -5
December 19
Today's Thought:
Quite the interesting dynamic when it's kids who need help. I chose my boyfriend; chose to marry him. But the kids? I "made" them. Oh yikes, talk about guilt! Al-Anon was there for me and I surely am grateful for that.
Submitted By:
Rose R.
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 20, 2014 9:10:44 GMT -5
December 20
Today's Thought:
From what I've seen over many years, I truly believe there is just so much more to sobriety than "putting the plug in the jug." Without changes in attitude, activities, friends, etc., all you have is a "dry drunk" - still got the same problems and coping skills, just doing life without booze.
Submitted By:
Rose R.
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.