Post by lildee on Feb 17, 2005 9:17:55 GMT -5
Days of Healing Days of Joy
Fear = False Evidence Appearing Real. -Paula L.
There is no question that fear is a bully that is capable of totally paralyzing our lives. Fear pushes hard. Fear speaks in a loud, intimidating voice. Fear is powerful.
Yet nearly every fear we have is learned. Responding to one kind of evidence or another, we learned to fear the things we do. Fear is a self-fulfilling prophecy: A situation is presented as scary, we act scared, and the fear-caused consequences that result reinforce the fear we were taught to feel. The question is- how good was the evidence in the first place? Usually, it was false. Is it really true that people won't like us if we stand up for ourselves? Is it true that we won't have friends if we don't go along with the crowd? Is it true that all relationships will eventually fall apart?
There is no question why many of us learned to be so afraid. The evidence was there. But was it true?
Today, I can dispel my fears by remembering that good is at work in my life.
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Fear = False Evidence Appearing Real. -Paula L.
There is no question that fear is a bully that is capable of totally paralyzing our lives. Fear pushes hard. Fear speaks in a loud, intimidating voice. Fear is powerful.
Yet nearly every fear we have is learned. Responding to one kind of evidence or another, we learned to fear the things we do. Fear is a self-fulfilling prophecy: A situation is presented as scary, we act scared, and the fear-caused consequences that result reinforce the fear we were taught to feel. The question is- how good was the evidence in the first place? Usually, it was false. Is it really true that people won't like us if we stand up for ourselves? Is it true that we won't have friends if we don't go along with the crowd? Is it true that all relationships will eventually fall apart?
There is no question why many of us learned to be so afraid. The evidence was there. But was it true?
Today, I can dispel my fears by remembering that good is at work in my life.
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.