Wednesday Chip---Self Pity/Self Forgetful

[Misty]

I need to forget about all my problems and try to help someone else today. I could really drip with self pity with the problems at
work and my feet suddenly swelling and hurting. It seems like something is always gonna be making me want to get into self pity but if I help someone else then there's
a chance I can stay out of it. Do you have self pity or are you self
forgetful? Please let me know! Thanks!----Mistyeve

[johnl]

Yeah I try to stau out of self pity and the best thing to do is help someone else i try to remember that someone always have things worse than I do

[Lin]

You are both right on target. When I start to feel self pity, I can jsut look around and se others with a tougher time than myself. By reaching out and helping others i get out of ME. Self pity is not productive. It does not make me grow. It holds me back in fact. I use gratitude and try to help others when I feel it starting to creep in.

Self forgetful is a weird way of saying THOUGHTFUL. I do try to be thoughtful of others. I try nbot to hurt feelings. I try to let others know i appreciate them. And i try to let others know that I care about them and their feelings. I also try to remember birthdays , anniversaries, etc. Even if it's jsut with a phone call or a card...i do try to remember.

LIN

[lildee]

Good morning Mistyeve,

Self Pity/ Self Forgetful

Who in this world hasn't felt sorry for themseleves or the position that they are in?

This is an excellent chip to follow on the heels of the "Do It" chip. When you get all bent out of shape and are sitting on the pity pot the best solution is to get off the pot, flush it and please close the lid, then get into action. Action is the key to terminating moping around and feeling sorry for yourself.

I have been listening to hubby moan and groan about how bad it is at his job. (Where he works there are supposed to be 4 workers, but they are running shorthanded and vacations have started.) Yesterday he was the only one at work. So get into action and call up your supervisors and tell them you need help. Moaning to me isn't gonna do any good. Put the action where there will be results. Talking to the bosses, and enlisting the help of the customers will help get some man power, moaning to me isn't gonna do anything.

I always find when those sad sack days drift in helping someone in the Program or getting busy in the house cure what ails me. Working up a mental or physical sweat detoxifies the doldrums of self pity.

Same story for me about summer vacation. I could sit an moan about the fact that there are no plans being made for our summer vacation, but being a "do it " person I have a back up plan.

Love and God Bless
Arlene

[Misty]

Dear John----Great Minds think alike!!! I think helping someone else is a good way out of self pity!!! It works if ya work it!!!
Thanks for stopping by!---Mistyeve


Dear Lin----In my opinion Thoughtful and Self Forgetful are 2 totally different things!!! I am
self forgetful cuz I am trying to
fight off my disease. I am thoughtful when I genuinely want to be nice to someone else. Helping another alkie is helping myself. Bill W. told Dr Bob that at their first meeting and that was what attracted Dr Bob to try AA. He was not getting helped for
a charity case. HE was getting helped so the other alkie could stay sober. To me that is the whole magic of the program. Just my own opinion!!!!------Mistyeve


Dear Arlene----I like the idea of stay on the pity pot as long as ya
have to but please flush and put the lid down when ya are thru!!! I
like that a lot!!! It draws a real good picture in my mind! Thanks so much for stoppin by!!!!
Mistyeve