Wednesday Chip---Anger/Self Control

[Misty]

My Grandma and my Mom both would clean when they got angry. This would work out all the anger and then they would have a clean house to show for it. I like to push furniture around when I'm real angry. It does work off the anger.
What do you do when your angry or do you have self control??? Please
let me know!!! Thanks---Mistyeve

[Lin]

I used to clean when I was angry also. I've also been know to organize the refrigerator or a cabinet. I guess it was to make a little order in the middle of the chaos.

I dont think I clean any more when I'[m angry. I may journal. Or I may write the preson a letter that I'm angry with and then delete it. THAT really helps alot. I get the feeling out and nobody get s hurt...i have no amends to make.

Mostly I let the little things go. I detach. I use acceptance. I let go and let God handle them. And those little things dont build up into big one that might make me get angry. So the answer is..I don't get angry very often. I use my program tools to nip it in the bud.

(and I pay a cleaning lady to do the cleaning. LOL)

LIN

[johnl]

when I get angry I go for a walk or a movie because I am not rational when im angry.When I can think then I will haveget self control

[Misty]

Dear Lin----You mentioned some real good ways to deal with anger.
I just was reminded of the acronym
for BUD=BUILDING UP to a DRUNK. I like how ya said nip it in the bud
that was real practical. Thanks for stoppin by!!!-----Mistyeve


Dear John----The only thing wrong with walking out is that ya don't get to talk things out. How do ya know the other person will be there when ya get back??? Or is that the whole idea??? Thanks for stopping by!!!----Mistyeve

[lildee]

Afternoon Mistyeve,

Anger/Self Control

Ouch !!! What can I say anger was one of my worst defects. It was not only anger, but it was mixed with rage, after carrying around a lot of junk and wreckage from the past. I was angry about everything. Who I was, where I am, What I am doing, all of it. I would yell , scream and throw a few hissy fits, and generally just be a female dog.

Then a little charm came into my life.... recovery and the Fourth Step. Here I was able to let go of all that anger. I was able to get rid of all the guilt and resentments I was burdened with. After releasing it all I became calmer more in control of my emotions and my feelings. Now when things rub me the wrong way I go and meditate, pray, or take a looooong hot bath. Instead of me trying to control things or people around me, I focus on controlling myself. I try to figure out why I am angry instead of flying off the handle. It is really nice being peaceful and serene. And I want to keep it that way.

Love & God Bless
Arlene

[caressa]

Anger is my biggest defects. I don't forgive easily. It is an Aires trait, but that doesn't make it excuseable.

I have been working on letting a lot of stuff go. It just isn't worth the time and effort to hang onto it.

I always internalized my anger. Then I found myself in later years in my recovery, acting it out. Not always violently, but verbally and agressively.

I can control myself today. I never allowed myself to feel it before. Today I can acknowledge it and let it go.

[Misty]

Dear Arlene----The 4th step is a great tool for releasing anger. I have always thought of it as an emotional enema (cleans out all the nuts) Thanks for stopping by!
Mistyeve



Dear Caressa----A good short formula that I learned early on in my sobriety was:NAME IT--CLAIM IT-
DUMP IT!!!! It works just fine when I work it. Thanks for stopping by----Mistyeve