Honesty/Dishonesty

[caressa]

Honesty is for me the basis of my program. Self-honesty was the most difficult for me to achieve. I didn't realize how much I really did lie to myself and how often I pulled on that blanket of denial.

Today was a day that I allowed myself to listen to my body, go back to bed and get the rest I needed from ten days of emotional and physical overload.

Sleeping away a lot of the day was always a time to beat myself up instead of looking at it as a nurturing, caring thing that I need.

Just for today, I will share how I feel. Tonight is my home group and this is the topic I am going to bring to the table.

[Lin]

I also believe in honesty. When a person tells me a LIE, I get very upset. So i have learned in many situations I need to not set those people up to lie. If i see my spouse obviously high, DON"T ask if he's been drinking or druggin.g.because he will LIE and say no. So I jsut assume he is and stay out of his way.

As far as sleeping the day away, I always feel like I'm wasting my day if I sleep too much. I get up WAy earlier than most humans...never set an alarm clock...go to bed early too though. Last night it was 9 tp 3. That was 6 hours sleep and I'm good to go. I wont take a nap. I have to be totally exhausted to be able to take a daytime nap and then it is never more that 45 min to an hour. I jstu wake up. (or perhaps the dogs aggravating me to play helps me wake up. LOL)

Since i have such a strong belief in others being honest to me, I try to be honest in all things I DO too! I dont go to the extreme of BRUTALLY HONEST. I am tactful about my honesty. But i do believe others deserve my honesty too.

We had a survey here once abotu a certain honesty. And the AA...even the women voted one way and all of the alanon voted the other. It was interesting. If a man cheats on his wife...goes out with a hooker...should he tell his wife? AlAnon answered..>YES> The wife need to have herself tested for diseases. He has no right to expose her to diseases without her knowledge. The AA said... "except when to do so would injure them or others"...they took the stand that this info would HURT their wife so keep it to yourself. Maybe we can do the same survey again and see if the results were the same.

LIN

[dg]

I am a firm believer of honesty. It goes a long way, even if the truth hurts.
I am being dishonest with myself if I don't keep up with my program and to try to keep myself in check when dealing with situations that I would normally would avoid doing, it is tough on me but I am jumping the hurdles when I MAKE those efforts.