Characteristics....

[SunnyGirl]

In the "Characteristics of ALCOA" #4 on the list
was, "ACOA's judge themselves without mercy".....

I do get down on myself, but when I set goals that really
aren't attainable, I am setting myself up for failure.

In the "Personal Bill of Rights for Adult Children". I realized
that I do have a right to .....“mess up”; to make mistakes, to
“blow it”, to disappoint myself, and to fall short of the mark.

Through the years I have come to realize there's a big
difference between doing my best and doing things perfectly.
For most of us, perfectionism is unattainable and really
frustrating.... It's exhausting and unnecessary! If doing the
best I can to make my life and surroundings sufficient, I am
willing to call it a day.

Perfectionism leads to procrastination and this does nothing
for our self-esteem or will being. Today I try to weigh my
options.... Does the time and effort I am putting into a
task worth it? What's the payoff? Learning to adjust my
goals has helped me in many area's of my life. ODAT

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl

[Lin]

The bill of right that said we have the right to mess up sure was a relief to me. I was always tool I better NOT mess up!

I'm not sure I was hard on myself...but I DO kow I had alot of FEAR of messing up and catching the wrath of my parents

LIN

[caressa]

One of the many sayings that I like in recovery is, "Just because I made a mistake doesn't mean I am one." It goes along with, "Just because I do something silly, doesn't mean I am stupid."

The Bill of Rights for me says, "It is okay to just be" More Importantly, it is okay to be me.

[majestyjo]

A good reminder, it is okay to be you.