People Pleasing

[caressa]

Was really surprised by the feeling I had last night playing bridge. I was feeling very insecure and overwhelmed and haven't felt that way for a long time. I don't consider myself a top player, but feel as though on the whole I have a good game, consistant and competetive.

At least I was open to learning and didn't beat myself up too much. We did have a good percentage, better than most scores I get on some Friday nights, but because I was playing with the director I added stress and expectations to something that wasn't projected onto me and was solely of my own making.

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21 Tips to Stop People Pleasing:

psychcentral.com/lib/21-tips-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser/

Read over these statements to see if they apply to you under some circumstances:

• I try to be who someone wants me to be.
  
  am afraid to rock the boat.
  
  It is hard for me to know what I want.
  
  I avoid speaking my mind.
  
  I find it easier to go along with what someone wants or with their opinion.
  
  I fantasize about a strong person taking over my life and making it work.
  
  It is hard for me to express my feelings when they are different from someone I’m close to.
  
  It is difficult for me to say No.
  
  I avoid getting angry.
  
  It is hard for me to take initiative.
  
  I try to be nice rather than expressing how I really feel.
  
  I want everyone to get along.
  

If these statements fit you in certain situations, you may have a People-Pleaser Pattern. You don’t need to behave this way all the time. You may be pleasing only with certain people or in certain situations. Personality patterns aren’t the same as personality types. If you have this pattern, it doesn’t mean that you are always a People-Pleaser, just that a part of you is.