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Post by Lin on Aug 12, 2007 17:47:55 GMT -5
I did not know my husband very long before we got engaged and married. I wanted to get away from home because both of my parents were active alcoholics and i jsut wanted out.My future husband did DRINK, but I had no idea how much. I knew him 5 weeks and we were married. I have not divorced him. We are still married. And today he drinks less than he used to, but he still drinks. He only had 2 years sober in the whole 39 years we have been married. If ihad KNOWN what was ahead of me...woudl I have married him? I really don't thin I would have.
I chose to stay, and make the best of it, but I dont think I'd do it over.
So I will say to you..think long an d hard about this before you marry this wonderful man.
LIN
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Post by eri on Sept 20, 2008 8:04:35 GMT -5
 What a eye opner...good golly. All these qoutes...it seems as if it was written just for me...it is so true. The past week has been terrible...I get sick to my stomach if I think about it....I worry all the time...I try to change things, I try to control the situation by saying stuff that makes no sense...and in the end I'm the one getting hurt!!! Is this from one book???
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Post by caressa on Oct 3, 2008 11:25:25 GMT -5
It appears to be from several books, some of them show the reference. The Language of Letting Go is for Codependency and Al-Anon has three authorized books. My favorite is Courage to Change. Just the title gave me hope.
Just this week I heard the expression "Worry is fear that hasn't said it's prayers." Not sure if that is exact, but it is what struck home for me.
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Post by surf66ca on Nov 23, 2020 20:46:21 GMT -5
It appears to be from several books, some of them show the reference. The Language of Letting Go is for Codependency and Al-Anon has three authorized books. My favorite is Courage to Change. Just the title gave me hope. Just this week I heard the expression "Worry is fear that hasn't said it's prayers." Not sure if that is exact, but it is what struck home for me. |
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Post by surf66ca on Nov 23, 2020 20:47:02 GMT -5
It appears to be from several books, some of them show the reference. The Language of Letting Go is for Codependency and Al-Anon has three authorized books. My favorite is Courage to Change. Just the title gave me hope. Just this week I heard the expression "Worry is fear that hasn't said it's prayers." Not sure if that is exact, but it is what struck home for me. |
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Post by surf66ca on Nov 23, 2020 20:48:14 GMT -5
It appears to be from several books, some of them show the reference. The Language of Letting Go is for Codependency and Al-Anon has three authorized books. My favorite is Courage to Change. Just the title gave me hope. Just this week I heard the expression "Worry is fear that hasn't said it's prayers." Not sure if that is exact, but it is what struck home for me. |
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Post by surf66ca on Nov 23, 2020 20:50:08 GMT -5
It appears to be from several books, some of them show the reference. The Language of Letting Go is for Codependency and Al-Anon has three authorized books. My favorite is Courage to Change. Just the title gave me hope. Just this week I heard the expression "Worry is fear that hasn't said it's prayers." Not sure if that is exact, but it is what struck home for me. |
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 12, 2020 20:18:14 GMT -5
A big read, but a lot of good information.
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 12, 2020 20:18:22 GMT -5
I did not know my husband very long before we got engaged and married. I wanted to get away from home because both of my parents were active alcoholics and i jsut wanted out.My future husband did DRINK, but I had no idea how much. I knew him 5 weeks and we were married. I have not divorced him. We are still married. And today he drinks less than he used to, but he still drinks. He only had 2 years sober in the whole 39 years we have been married. If ihad KNOWN what was ahead of me...woudl I have married him? I really don't thin I would have. I chose to stay, and make the best of it, but I dont think I'd do it over. So I will say to you..think long an d hard about this before you marry this wonderful man. LIN |
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 12, 2020 20:19:58 GMT -5
I did not know my husband very long before we got engaged and married. I wanted to get away from home because both of my parents were active alcoholics and i jsut wanted out.My future husband did DRINK, but I had no idea how much. I knew him 5 weeks and we were married. I have not divorced him. We are still married. And today he drinks less than he used to, but he still drinks. He only had 2 years sober in the whole 39 years we have been married. If ihad KNOWN what was ahead of me...woudl I have married him? I really don't thin I would have. I chose to stay, and make the best of it, but I dont think I'd do it over. So I will say to you..think long an d hard about this before you marry this wonderful man. LIN |
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Post by majestyjo on Feb 8, 2021 22:27:12 GMT -5
Some valuable information, it will take a while to read and to sink into your brain. One of the most important tools of recovery. We detach because we love.
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.