Post by SunnyGirl on Feb 16, 2010 13:06:39 GMT -5
C.A.R.E.S.S. yourself
C: Develop your coping skills.
Learn to identify your emotions: anger, fear, guilt, sadness -
go to some mutual support group meetings and work with a
counselor on this important part of your recovery.
Learn about boundaries: what are your responsibilities,
possessions, traits, and what are others'; how to establish
and maintain boundaries. Reading, groups, sponsorship in
Alcoholics Anonymous will help with this. With this goes
MYOB: learning to mind your own business and to detach
with love.
Learn how to be assertive in relationships and how to safely
resolve conflict. Books and courses are offered on this. It also
helps in your work and parenting.
Determine what pieces of your puzzle are missing and develop
them: money management, time management, stress management,
learning balance, hobbies.
A: Make yourself accountable. Share your commitment to
change with someone who cares for you. Join a group, get
a sponsor/mentor.
R: Take responsibility for your own recovery. Being a victim
may feel like it absolves you from blame, but it gives all the
power to the victimizer. It's up to you to change the things
you can. You can do it.
E: Education helps. Reading books, attending classes, going
to group meetings all help towards reaching an understanding
of addictions, dysfunctional family systems and recovering from
symptoms of codependence.
S: Develop a support network. Join a group (Al-Anon, religious
institution, hobby group). Identify support people, friends,
family, institution of worship, or workplace and get in the habit
of sharing with them, in person and by phone.
S: Your spiritual health will likely get more and more important
to you as you get older. Figure out what you believe. Decide
on your values and live by them. Start your day with meditation.
Don't quit before the miracle.
Author: Ray Baker, MD
Although this is not Al-Anon approved, it really was a worth
while read for me..... Besides I love acronyms! ;D Hugs, SG
C: Develop your coping skills.
Learn to identify your emotions: anger, fear, guilt, sadness -
go to some mutual support group meetings and work with a
counselor on this important part of your recovery.
Learn about boundaries: what are your responsibilities,
possessions, traits, and what are others'; how to establish
and maintain boundaries. Reading, groups, sponsorship in
Alcoholics Anonymous will help with this. With this goes
MYOB: learning to mind your own business and to detach
with love.
Learn how to be assertive in relationships and how to safely
resolve conflict. Books and courses are offered on this. It also
helps in your work and parenting.
Determine what pieces of your puzzle are missing and develop
them: money management, time management, stress management,
learning balance, hobbies.
A: Make yourself accountable. Share your commitment to
change with someone who cares for you. Join a group, get
a sponsor/mentor.
R: Take responsibility for your own recovery. Being a victim
may feel like it absolves you from blame, but it gives all the
power to the victimizer. It's up to you to change the things
you can. You can do it.
E: Education helps. Reading books, attending classes, going
to group meetings all help towards reaching an understanding
of addictions, dysfunctional family systems and recovering from
symptoms of codependence.
S: Develop a support network. Join a group (Al-Anon, religious
institution, hobby group). Identify support people, friends,
family, institution of worship, or workplace and get in the habit
of sharing with them, in person and by phone.
S: Your spiritual health will likely get more and more important
to you as you get older. Figure out what you believe. Decide
on your values and live by them. Start your day with meditation.
Don't quit before the miracle.
Author: Ray Baker, MD
Although this is not Al-Anon approved, it really was a worth
while read for me..... Besides I love acronyms! ;D Hugs, SG
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.