Post by caressa on Mar 1, 2010 21:21:22 GMT -5
...#170 called Emotional Maturity-
EMOTIONAL MATURITY
The mature person has developed attitudes in relation to himself and his environment which have lifted him above “childishness” in thought and behavior.
Some of the characteristics of the person who has achieved true adulthood are suggested here:
1.He accepts criticism gratefully, being honestly glad for an opportunity to improve.
2.He does not indulge in self-pity. He has begun to feel the laws of compensation operating in all life.
3.He does not expect special consideration from anyone.
4.He controls his temper.
5.He meets emergencies with poise.
6.His feelings are not easily hurt. He accepts the responsibility of this own acts without trying to “alibi”.
7.He has outgrown the “all or nothing” stage.
8.He recognizes that no person or situation is wholly good or wholly bad, and begins to appreciate the Golden Mean.
9.He is not impatient at reasonable delays. He has learned that he is not the arbiter of the universe and that he must often adjust himself to other people and their convenience.
10.He is a good loser. He can endure defeat and disappointment without whining or complaining.
11.He does not worry unduly about things he cannot help.
12.He is not given to boasting or “showing off” in socially unacceptable ways.
13.He is honestly glad when others enjoy success or good fortune. He has outgrown envy and jealousy.
14.He is open-minded enough to listen thoughtfully to the opinions of others.
15.He is not a chronic “fault finder”.
16.He plans things in advance rather than trusting to the inspiration of the moment.
Last of all, we think in terms of spiritual maturity.
1.He has faith in a Power greater than Himself.
2.He feels himself an organic part of mankind as a whole, contributing his part to each group of which he is a member.
3.He obeys the spiritual essence of the Golden Rule: “thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself”.
EMOTIONAL MATURITY
The mature person has developed attitudes in relation to himself and his environment which have lifted him above “childishness” in thought and behavior.
Some of the characteristics of the person who has achieved true adulthood are suggested here:
1.He accepts criticism gratefully, being honestly glad for an opportunity to improve.
2.He does not indulge in self-pity. He has begun to feel the laws of compensation operating in all life.
3.He does not expect special consideration from anyone.
4.He controls his temper.
5.He meets emergencies with poise.
6.His feelings are not easily hurt. He accepts the responsibility of this own acts without trying to “alibi”.
7.He has outgrown the “all or nothing” stage.
8.He recognizes that no person or situation is wholly good or wholly bad, and begins to appreciate the Golden Mean.
9.He is not impatient at reasonable delays. He has learned that he is not the arbiter of the universe and that he must often adjust himself to other people and their convenience.
10.He is a good loser. He can endure defeat and disappointment without whining or complaining.
11.He does not worry unduly about things he cannot help.
12.He is not given to boasting or “showing off” in socially unacceptable ways.
13.He is honestly glad when others enjoy success or good fortune. He has outgrown envy and jealousy.
14.He is open-minded enough to listen thoughtfully to the opinions of others.
15.He is not a chronic “fault finder”.
16.He plans things in advance rather than trusting to the inspiration of the moment.
Last of all, we think in terms of spiritual maturity.
1.He has faith in a Power greater than Himself.
2.He feels himself an organic part of mankind as a whole, contributing his part to each group of which he is a member.
3.He obeys the spiritual essence of the Golden Rule: “thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself”.
Good stuff here. For so many years I was ruled by my emotions. One of the most liberating things I heard in recovery was, "Just because you have a feeling, you don't have act on it." It was what I had been doing wrong, most of my life.
As Adult Children, so much of our life was based on other people's emotions and role playing that we were never in touch with our true self.
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.