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Post by BW on Aug 29, 2010 8:40:31 GMT -5
My Only Job
My only job is to work my own recovery. I cannot work anyone else's recovery for them, I can barely keep up with my own. When I get my head stuck in other people's issues and become preoccupied with how they are doing, I lose my own grounding. Today I will ask myself the questions that are important for me to answer. HALT. Am I too hungry, angry, lonely or tired? If the answer is yes to any of these, I will attend to myself so that I don't act out, get down or pick up. I will ask myself if I have gotten enough exercise and rest. I will eat nutritious foods that give me the energy I need for my recovery and stay away from those foods that cause my blood sugar to spike then fall, leaving me depleted. I will seek out companionship and connection. I will make sure that I have kept time in my day for reflection and meditation.
I can take charge of my own experience.
- Tian Dayton Phd
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Post by SunnyGirl on Aug 29, 2010 12:19:21 GMT -5
a most excellent post fluttering... In fact I am going to snag this topic and use it in the Topic of the week section... hope you don't mind...  Hugs, SG |
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Post by BW on Aug 29, 2010 12:29:32 GMT -5
Certainly not SG...That's the way recovery works is passing on what was so freely given to us and taking what we need and leaving the rest
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Post by caressa on Aug 29, 2010 12:44:13 GMT -5
Not much sense in sharing on it twice. My first thought was, "There is no job!" Not a 9-5 one. It is 24 hours a day.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Sept 12, 2010 14:41:12 GMT -5
Fluttering....
I hope you'll continue posting " What's my Job?"
I've really enjoyed reading it in the Weekly Topic
section, it needs a home ;D right here where it
originated. Hugs, SG
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Post by BW on Sept 12, 2010 17:54:30 GMT -5
Here we is SG
The Experience of Pleasure
I will build my capacity for experiencing joy and serenity. What good is earning a living if I don't enjoy my life, what good is recovery if I don't become grateful for the life I am saving, namely mine. Today I recognize that it is the simple pleasures that bring me the greatest joy. Waking up and feeling good. Enjoying the weather, a friend, a cup of tea. When I allow myself to live my life rather than chase after what I think my life should be or reject the good that is around me a mysterious thing happens. Life is enough. The space around me just sort of fills up with something, an energy, a sensation of being alive, a presence that fills in what previously felt empty. I look around and know it is enough.
- Tian Dayton PhD
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Post by BW on Sept 13, 2010 11:03:28 GMT -5
Creating My Own Rituals
Rituals ground me in my own day. My morning tea, my walk through the park, dinner with my family. These are the daily rituals that give my life a sense of continuity and solidity. They hold me, they bond me with those I love. Recovery is full of rituals. Meetings, daily reading, sharing with friends and quiet moments of self reflection. Rituals that deepen my sense of life and remind me of what's really important. They are part of what gives my life its symmetry. I need these rituals to help me remember what to value. And they join me with with life, with the feeling of what we're all really made of under the skin. Rituals speak in their own voice and today, I am listening.
- Tian Dayton PhD
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Post by caressa on Sept 13, 2010 13:48:10 GMT -5
Like this one, my rituals are not at the same time and always in the same order but they do find their way into my day. That is often because I sleep when my body lets me and although I don't always do a good job, I try to listen to my body, my heart, and those thoughts that come to mind that I have come to learn to trust.
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Post by BW on Sept 14, 2010 13:15:33 GMT -5
Staying Calm
Peace begins with me. I need to remember that emotions run high during recovery. My joys are higher and my longings are stronger. The world is more intense than it usually is. When I forget this, I start to feel out of step if I'm not where I think I should be, I compare my insides with everybody else's outsides and use that to make myself wrong. I want to push away my inner world and I get a little afraid of what I'm experiencing if it doesn't fit my image what I'm supposed to be feeling. Then I engage in a cover up, only the person I am covering up is me. When I do that, I am only half there. Today I will let myself have my full range of feelings, knowing that they may, at times, be a bit of a roller coaster, but knowing also, that I will land comfortably at the end of the ride.
- Tian Dayton PhD
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Post by caressa on Sept 14, 2010 14:03:11 GMT -5
Just what I needed to hear today, thank you.
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Post by BW on Sept 15, 2010 11:48:27 GMT -5
Giving Back
Today I give something to the community of people in which I find myself. I look around me and wonder what I might add to the world, to someone else's day and I do it. I recognize that giving and receiving are one channel, that when I open my heart to give, I simultaneously open it to receive as well.
- Tian Dayton PhD
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Post by BW on Sept 15, 2010 11:49:33 GMT -5
and on this journey of recovery I have learned to be a gracious reciever rather than the taker I used to be
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Post by desertstar on Sept 16, 2010 0:41:10 GMT -5
Creating my own rituals. Seeing hubby off with a hug and kiss. Praying in the shower. Taking care of our pets. Exercising. Feeding the cat. Going to meetings. There are four meetings I go to every week. I seem to go on auto pilot. If I need to run errands, I do that on my way home. I work from home. I go to two daytime meetings each week so the isolation of my job doesn't get to be too much. Feeding the cat. Checking in with friends. Feeding the cat. Yeah, he is a demanding little brat.
My rhythms are as much weekly as daily. But, I know where I am, where I can get help, where I check in. Where I stay sober and in recovery one day at a time.
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Post by BW on Sept 16, 2010 9:08:00 GMT -5
Paying it Forward
Today I will show my gratitude for the many kindnesses I have received by paying it forward, by giving what I have so appreciated getting to another individual. I remember how good it felt to have some one reach out to me in generosity. I will do that for someone today. I will see an opportunity to give and I will give. Whether it's a smile, an encouraging word, an extra moment of my time or some kind of object. I will not hang on to it, I will give it. And when I do give it I will say a quiet thank you to the person who gave to me. I will see the gift going full circle.
- Tian Dayton PhD
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Post by SunnyGirl on Sept 16, 2010 21:22:30 GMT -5
Needed to read this today, thank you for sharing....
Peace on the journey, SG
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Post by BW on Sept 17, 2010 12:32:38 GMT -5
Joy
Today I will embrace the experience of joy. The real purpose of life isn't to grab and get, to preen and try to out do the next guy. The real purpose of life is to deepen my ability to experience joy. Joy is the gift. Joy is the accomplishment. Joy is what fills me up. When I am able to feel joy, I don't need to chase around trying to get the world to admire and envy me on the outside because I feel empty on the inside. When I feel joy, I am happy in my own life because I understand that it is the only one that is actually mine to live, the only one through which I can connect with spirit.
- Tian Dayton PhD
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Post by BW on Sept 18, 2010 11:59:56 GMT -5
Love What You Have
Today I will love what I have rather than always wanting something to be different before I allow myself to be happy. There is so much in my life right now. When I sit still and allow the life I already have to surround me, there is a feeling of fullness that begins to expand inside of me. When I spend all my time chasing what I think I need in order to be happy, I am never still enough to actually experience this feeling of contentment. Contentment is available to me all the time if I am willing to slow down and allow it to come into me. My happiness has more to do with loving what I already have than regretting or chasing after what I don't have.
- Tian Dayton PhD
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Post by BW on Sept 19, 2010 12:45:38 GMT -5
Actualizing the Gifts that are In Me
I will actualize that gifts that are in me today. I will be less preoccupied with who I'm not and more occupied with who I am. When I spend all of my time looking outside of me or wanting what others have, I forget that I have my own special gifts. God has placed gifts within me that I am meant to develop and share. My responsibility is to come to know what my gifts are, then to cultivate and strengthen them as I share them with the world.
- Tian Dayton PhD
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Post by caressa on Sept 19, 2010 12:54:08 GMT -5
Good one! For years I used people, places and things, today my HP utilizes people, places and things to show me a better way of life. He has given me the gifts of recovery and it is important tha I utilize them, to show my gratitude for what I have received.
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Post by BW on Sept 20, 2010 16:04:06 GMT -5
Loving Myself through Action
I want to do something special for myself today. Giving to others and withholding from myself doesn't work. I tend to treat other people the way that I treat myself. If I am stingy with me, I will, somewhere along the line, act that out with other people. If I am hard on myself, I will tend to be hard on others. I am the only person who is with me all hours of the day and I know what feels good and warm to me. I know what makes me feel sustained from within. Today, I will encourage, support and congratulate myself. Each time I do something that pleases me I'll say 'thank you' to myself. Each time I do something well, I'll tell myself 'good job.'
I will be my own best cheerleader.
- Tian Dayton PhD
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“You should not see the desert
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.