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3 Cs
Aug 28, 2004 7:13:14 GMT -5
Post by Lin on Aug 28, 2004 7:13:14 GMT -5
The toopic for last night's meeting was the 3 Cs. I really enjoyed the meeting. I wish more had been able to attend. I wanted to share some of my share. I invite you to reply with your thoughts.
Those three C's- didnt CAUSE it, cant CONTROL it and CAN'T cure it are very powerful. They helped me realize my powerlessness over the disease and those who have it.
For my whole life I listened to active alkies that it was MY fault they drank. And when i was not being blamed for something, i was blaming myself. It did a number on self confidence and self esteem. But with this concept I was able to realize i am just not as powerful as this disease. And it's not my fault another person drinks or lies or takes pills or behaves in the wrong way toward me or tohers. I am nto to blame.
And can't control it? I cant count the times I poured it out, refused to buy it,. watered it down, drank with him so it woudl run out faster, with-held money...only trying to manipulate a suituation that happened anyway. Not my job ...never was.
and cant Cure it? I dragged him to AA meetings, detox, rehabs...pleaded and begged...cried and threatened. Nothing i did helped him stop until HE was ready. The 'cure" is up to the person addicted and to their higher power. Not me.
What do you see in the 3 Cs?
LIN
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3 Cs
Feb 17, 2015 23:41:57 GMT -5
Post by majestyjo on Feb 17, 2015 23:41:57 GMT -5
Always a good topic Lin. I met someone today when I was down in the mall and we had a mini-meeting. One of the things I said to her was, "If I have to control it, it is already out of control it." She is a retired nurse and she had a difficult time with the program; because she tended to intellectualize things and look at things from a religious point of view runs a muck with the spiritual aspect of recovery. Just accepting the fact that it is an incurable disease and that we are giving a daily reprieve through the Grace of the God of our understanding and the gift of the 12 Steps. We can't control our drinking, and yet we can change our thinking, our actions and behaviours by working and applying those 12 Steps to our life, whether we are the alcoholic/addict or the family and friend of same. We didn't cause it. I can remember my mother saying, "Look at what you made me do." I didn't know that I didn't know that I didn't have the power. No one can make me do anything unless I give up my power to them. Once I pick up that drink or drug, it takes over my life and every time I picked up, I lost a piece of me, so I lost power. Yet when I surrendered, reached out and asked for help, I was empowered to do what I needed to do to stay clean and sober, one day at a time. I was told that sobriety meant "Soundness of mind." That applies to all of us, "alcoholics and non-alcoholics." You can't live with an alcoholic and have soundness of mind. I am a daughter of an alcoholic, was married to an alcoholic, became an alcoholic, and have a son who is a self-alcoholic, and have had several recovering alcoholic boyfriends. I thought I was the cause, the cure, and in control and what an illusion that was.
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