Post by caressa on Dec 11, 2010 11:55:55 GMT -5
Perfectionism – Expecting or demanding too much from ourselves or others. Treating things that aren’t perfect as not good enough. Not recognizing a good try or progress.
As a new friend said, "Perfectionism is part of your disease, not your recovery." I always wanted to do it right. If it was 'right' it wasn't good enough and had to be done over.
I was so grateful to the lady who said, "God doesn't make no junk. You are a child of God, you are loved."
Again, the failure is in the not trying, not in the trying and not meeting mine or someone else's expectations. I always set such a high bar of standards and it was difficult to reach my goals and had to learn to lower it so they were attainable. It is better to take baby steps instead of giant strides when heading toward a goal. You really cover more ground that way, you don't miss anything along the way.
Again, it is just because I make a mistake, doesn't mean I am one. I am perfect in God's site, and I had to learn to accept my human nature. For some reason, it always felt less than and I just never seemed to measure up.
I wasn't a bad person trying to get good. I was a good person trying to let go of ideas, concepts, behaviors, patterns, and thinking that kept me from being who I am and allow myself to feel good about myself.
As a new friend said, "Perfectionism is part of your disease, not your recovery." I always wanted to do it right. If it was 'right' it wasn't good enough and had to be done over.
I was so grateful to the lady who said, "God doesn't make no junk. You are a child of God, you are loved."
Again, the failure is in the not trying, not in the trying and not meeting mine or someone else's expectations. I always set such a high bar of standards and it was difficult to reach my goals and had to learn to lower it so they were attainable. It is better to take baby steps instead of giant strides when heading toward a goal. You really cover more ground that way, you don't miss anything along the way.
Again, it is just because I make a mistake, doesn't mean I am one. I am perfect in God's site, and I had to learn to accept my human nature. For some reason, it always felt less than and I just never seemed to measure up.
I wasn't a bad person trying to get good. I was a good person trying to let go of ideas, concepts, behaviors, patterns, and thinking that kept me from being who I am and allow myself to feel good about myself.
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.