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Post by ChrisK on Dec 27, 2004 15:23:47 GMT -5
If you're trolling thru, stop in sign up. I can't beging to describe how nice the people are in here.
I am so glad I found this site. So glad to have met the people on here.
chris
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Post by Misty on Dec 27, 2004 17:27:08 GMT -5
Hey There Chris----You sound like a man who has an attitude of gratitude. You are a wonderful example!!! Sincerely---Mistyeve
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Post by ChrisK on Jan 13, 2005 23:48:56 GMT -5
I WROTE THIS AS A LARK. IT'S SO MUCH EASIER NOW THEN IT USED TO BE:)
EVERYONE IN HERE, I'VE GOTTEN TO READ YOUR STORIES THAT U SHARE. SUCH NICE PEOPLE
CHRIS
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Post by carolsongs on Jan 27, 2007 20:32:13 GMT -5
Hi my name Is carolyn Im sober 12years , but missing my aa and acoa sisters and brothers out there Im a mom married to a great guy nice house , go to church, ive been in private christian acoa and aa therapy such a blessing but i miss the fellowship of the meetings to share with people who understand , happy to be here
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Post by MrDuck on Jan 27, 2007 20:47:38 GMT -5
Welcome carolsongs. Nice to see some new people posting. I am alki and still go to 3 meetings a work and they still work. I stopped going years ago for drinking. I go for the positive input and attitude adjustment for me. Welcome again and hope you keep mosting.
Ron
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Post by maricris07 on Apr 4, 2007 4:47:08 GMT -5
Hi, I'm new to this site. I hope to learn more from this forum. ________________ maricris07 Addiction Intervention --Learn more about addiction intervention options |
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Post by carolsongs on Apr 4, 2007 9:07:20 GMT -5
WELCOME, maricris07, im fairly new too, threres lots of good people here caring, and helpful, lots of great info too1 god bless carolsongs
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Post by marysmith on Feb 19, 2008 3:46:56 GMT -5
I am new here... I am still drinking and have no days sober!!!!!!!!!!!! I want to stop, I think I am a big problem...... My husband is on his 3rd DV and may go to jail for his drinking and how he relates to me when he is drunk.... I do not help as I drink in front of him; I am wrong... How can I feel good about myself without dringking... I have a long day, I drink.... I have a hard day, I drink... I am good at telling my child I am OK and her dad is a mess but is that true???/ Are both of us a mess? Are both of us hiding??? My mom; parinoid scitzafrenic not me I am additicted to Alcholol>>>>> What is worse....
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Post by caressa on Feb 19, 2008 5:08:40 GMT -5
Alcoholism is a disease. It is a progressive disease. Your mother's disease can be fixed with medication. Your disease can not. Until you can come to a spiritual decision to quit and ask for help and make the decision to quit, it has been my experience that you will continue to drink.
I had to pray for the willingness to quit drinking and using. I had to reach out and ask for help and my source was a counsellor at the YWCA were I was staying and she got me into treatment which lead me to AA.
No one could help me until I was ready. I went to meeting and didn't pick up but still could not completely accept my alcoholism. I just knew I couldn't go back to where I came from, so I didn't pick up a drink one day at a time, went to meetings, did what was suggested to me, and I stayed clean and sober one day at a time.
Your disease in not curable, just like your mothes, but it can be arrested one day at a time through the healing of the 12 Steps. It would be nice to be able to take a pill and have a quick fix, but that is another addiction.
Please take some time to read some of the post here, you will find a great source of information. I shall pray that your Higher Power will lead and guide you to recovery.
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Post by Marcie on Nov 16, 2009 7:29:07 GMT -5
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Post by BW on Aug 24, 2010 19:11:28 GMT -5
Hi..I am an alcoholic/addict and my name is Fluttering and I have been on this recovery journey for 24+ years. Much like that quote from page 25 of our book..I have been "rocketed into the fourth dimension of existence" and have a life today that I could never have possibly ever have imagined possible. I still attend meetings because I truly believe that all I have is a daily reprieve. I also know there is so much more for me to learn and there is more room for me to grow. I also know that no matter how long I am here I can never begin to repay all that has been so freely given to me. Each day is a precious gift. Yes there are some tuff days...but even those tuff days are just opportunites for growth.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Aug 25, 2010 12:53:12 GMT -5
Each day is a precious gift. Yes there are some tuff days...
but even those tuff days are just opportunites for growth. Hi Fluttering... My name is SunnyGirl (Cherie) and I am a member of Alanon/Naranon/ACOA, my qualifiers are a son, daughter, sister, 2-nephews and my father was an alcoholic. I have found the help and hope I needed on-line and have been coming to Essence of Recovery since it began. I did take a couple years off, but I've been back for a couple years of so. I had to quote you from your post, it really struck me for it's wisdom.... Every single moment of every day is a gift, we do have to accept the bad along with the good. From those less than perfect moments we learn so much! Many thanks for sharing and it's so nice to have you here as part of the group.... We're a little challenged for people sharing on the boards so to are truly a gift! Peace on the journey, SG |
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Post by BW on Aug 25, 2010 14:35:20 GMT -5
Thank You SG...I love this journey and am very passionate about it... One of the simplest yet most profound words on this journey is the first word of step one.."WE" none of us have to do this journey alone
YANA
You
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Post by caressa on Aug 25, 2010 20:39:27 GMT -5
As a fellow alcoholic, I can identify with you. As each anniversary has passed, I realized, it isn't about years, it is still very much in today. It doesn't matter how many years you have, it is about how you are living our life in today.
Thank you for sharing and being a part of our family.
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Post by BW on Dec 28, 2011 11:58:41 GMT -5
Wanted to bring this thread forward to hopefully make our new members aware of how important they are
We work together to keep the candle of hope lit for those still suffering
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Post by majestyjo on Apr 17, 2015 21:30:23 GMT -5
What topics would you like discussed? What do you need for your recovery? Do you have any questions you would like answered? If you don't know how or don't wish to post, send me a private message.AC You are the most important people at this site. To the new members here, please feel free to post anywhere and ask as many questions as you like. There is no such think as a stupid question. If you need direction in any way please ask. Click on my name or that of another member you identify with and send a private message if you need instructions to post. We are here for you. You are the reason we are here and keep coming back. We share because we care, please keep coming so you don't have to come back. |
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Post by majestyjo on Apr 17, 2015 21:30:53 GMT -5
We do this one day at a time. Asking for help is the 1st Step. Feel free to private message me.
I was living at the YWCA and talked to my social worker there and through her counselling got into a treatment center. I detox by myself in my room at the Y, I didn't know that there was such a thing as a detox center and that I didn't have to do it alone. It was those five days of hell that I remember when I think of picking up. I never wanted to go through them again. When I got into treatment, I found 12 Step programs and have been going to them since then. That was in August 1991 and I haven't found it necessary to pick up since. I had tried my way for eight years before that, I could stop, but couldn't stay stopped.
Just keep coming, reading the posts here. There is a lot of good material posted here. If you feel like sharing, press reply and share your thoughts and questions to that post. If you don't find anything to answer your questions, click on NEW THREAD and a new window will open up and you can share your thoughts there. Each has a separate section, but it doesn't matter where it is, it is more important that you share what is important for your recovery.
I am an addict, an alcoholic, an adult child of an alcoholic, and my drug of choice was always 'more' and it doesn't matter where I post I qualify. I have an eating disorder, my son is a self-admitted addict, and I have been known to get carried away with Nevada Tickets.
For many years, I blamed my husband and my father for my drinking. My husband I kicked out and my father passed away as a result of his diesease, and I was alone and I was still drinking and taking prescription medication (dried up alcohol). When I hit my bottom, I was alone. No one was around for me to blame and I had to look at myself. I use to say, "If you ccan't beat 'em join 'em." It got so bad I had to be drunk to be around my husband. I couldn't accept life, and drinking was my coping tool. It stopped working for me and what had been my friend became my enemy. My disease increased, I kept having to have more and my pill addiction increased. I finally got to a stage where I was sick and tired of being tired and sick. I surrendered and reach out and asked for help. I was 49. Hopefully you won't have to continue drinking as long as I did. For me to drink is to die, I chose to live.
Continued...
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Post by majestyjo on Apr 17, 2015 21:32:03 GMT -5
One of the reasons I got involved in service was to give back what was given to me. They said "If I didn't give my recovery away, I wouldn't keep it." This is a selfish program and your recovery comes first. I think it is about balance. It is important to have a life outside of the rooms. That is one of the reasons for recovery, to get a life and start living it and being a part of the word around us. You can not help those who are willing to work a program. I have let go of several sponsee by saying, "If you aren't willing to work an AA program, I can't be an AA sponsor." I couldn't do it for them, all I could do was carry the message, and what they did with it was none of my business. In Al-Anon, they call it detachment. We don't give advice, tell them what to do, just share our experience, strength and hope. A lot of the whiners made me grateful that wasn't were I was at. If you aren't enjoying recovery, what are you doing wrong? Have you done the Steps? Do you have a sponsor? I found that my way wasn't always the right way for someone else, it was about what was good for me and my recovery. I took a little from one, none from another, and a lot from others. I was very involved for the first ten years of my life and then due to health issues, I couldn't go out there and do and the internet has been a way for me to do service in today. I always say my drug of choice was alcohol, men, pills, men, work, men, food, men, computers, men.... I had to learn to identify, not compare. It isn't about other people, it is about me and what I need to recovery from my dis-ease, which is four-fold, mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical. Step Two says doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results. It says I can be restore me to insanity. Didn't think I was insane. But looking outside of myself to make me feel better, doesn't not make a lot of sense.. My drug of choice was more! This is an inward journey, I travelled the other one for too many years. It is the God of your understanding. Not how you were told to believe, not what you thought you believed, but going on a personal journey to find your God and build a relationship that is yours, and install a direct line, and leave the line open. My God is always there, it is up to me to acknowledge Him/Her. It doesn't matter what you call your God, as long as you recognize His/Her voice when your prayer is answered. I was told we have a masculine and feminine side and we were made in God's Image. Who heard tell of a man asking for direction. Most men aren't comfortable with showing their emotions and being intimate, I feel it is the feminine side that gives us the love and understanding. The strength, courage, and support comes from the masculine. Whether it is Good Orderly Direction or Divine Orderly Good, Jesus, Buddha, Higher Self, Inner Self, Creator, Supreme Being, The Source, to my way of thinking, my God is ONE! One size fits all. Don't run away when you hear God mentioned. Just remember that God can't be you. You can't be God to someone or something else, you don't have the power. If you think you are in control, it is an illusion. If it has to be controlled, it is already out of control. Hope you will continue to come and share with us each day. |
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Post by majestyjo on Apr 17, 2015 21:34:20 GMT -5
Welcome to newcomers, whether you sign in and share or not, know that you are important to us. Without you, there is no us. You are the reason we are here. You give purpose to our lives and you help us as much as we may help you. So please keep coming, so you don't have to come back.  This is a recovery site. A site for people who wish to recover from active addiction from all substance abuse.
It is really sad when people abuse the site to post spam and post material for their own honour and glory, instead of giving in the spirit of the fellowship of recovery, which is one addict reaching out to another addict for help, not putting out a hand or a foot to put them down, trip them up, or lead them back to where they came from, instead of showing them a better way of life.
Putting someone down to make yourself feel better is not the principles of this site, and you will be deleted and banned.
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Post by majestyjo on Apr 17, 2015 21:43:59 GMT -5
Alcoholism is a disease. It is a progressive disease. Your mother's/father's disease can be fixed with medication. Your disease can not. Until you can come to a spiritual decision to quit and ask for help and make the decision to quit, it has been my experience that you will continue to drink. Have found the same thing to be true about drugs. Prescription drugs were one of my issues, and when I got to AA, I realized that they were like dried-up alcohol. I had to pray for the willingness to quit drinking and using. I had to reach out and ask for help and my source was a counsellor at the YWCA were I was staying and she got me into treatment which lead me to AA. No one could help me until I was ready. I went to meeting and didn't pick up, but still could not completely accept my alcoholism. I just knew I couldn't go back to where I came from, so I didn't pick up a drink one day at a time, went to meetings, did what was suggested to me, and I stayed clean and sober one day at a time. Your disease in not curable, but it can be arrested one day at a time through the healing of the 12 Steps. It would be nice to be able to take a pill and have a quick fix, but that is another addiction. Please take some time to read some of the posts here, you will find a great source of information. I shall pray that your Higher Power will lead and guide you to recovery. There is more than just the readings of the day, there are some spiritual, emotional, and physical food too. The readings are important, but there is a lot of material on living in today, clean and sober. We welcome you to the site and hope you will continue to keep coming back. |
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"Win, loose, or draw I have had one hell of a lot of fun being here."
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.