need help!!!!

[mrsspanish]

me again!!!!! need help in letting go and letting God....so many people have talked to me about it and while i believe it i am having a hard time putting it into practice....especially after 2 years and my hubby is still not giving me a divorce.
thanks for everything!!

[dg]

I don't understand why you can't get a divorce w/o his permission.
I am sorry you are going thru such a hard time Doris with this divorce thing.
As much as we don't want to let go and let God at times, remember the Serenity Prayer.. that seems to help me do the let go and Let God a little better, maybe it will help you some.
(((((((((Doris))))))))))))

[mrsspanish]

dg,

in answer to your question,, i dont need his permission but he is dragging out the court process with postponements , etc.. secondly i am jewish and i also need a religious divorce which i cant get w/o his permission... thanks so much for your words of encourageement..((((((((((((((((DG)))))))))))))))))))))))))

[Caressa2]

God has an open mind, perhaps you could have a little talk with him and ask him to speed up the process.

Sounds like your husband's Higher Power is intervening and maybe you should go to yours for some Divine Intervention.

The courts and the systems will keep you on the run, lawyers like that overtime, and it probably wouldn't be a bad idea to go to your lawyers and say, "Hey, enough already, I am tired of waiting, and I want some action!"

No workee, no payee!!! If you haven't got a lawyer yet, do so. You don't have to wait for your husband to start the ball rolling, and you can alway roll it back into his court and stop letting him throw curve balls.

Letting go and letting God, doesn't mean we don't take the action. It means we take the action and leave the results up to Him. It is about making the decision to let him take care of it, but maybe even He is getting tired of babysitting the whole thing, and if you ask, He just might find a ball of His own, or find a new umpire!

This is from a woman who has been divorced twice! Been there, done it, wore the T-shirt!

[lildee]

Dear Doris,
As for the "American" divorce you can most certainly obtain it without you husband. I did. I used abuse and irreconsilable(sp) differences as the grounds for the divorce.

As far as the Jewish "get" if you have not been with your husband "romantically" that is reason for the "get".Any rabbi should honor that especailly if you advise him of the extenuating cicumstances. You may just have to find the right rabbi to honor your wishes. Maybe one that is a little more conservative will see things your way. Maybe instead of the "man" initiating the "get" a more conservative rabbi would let you start the proceeding. Another thing if you obtain the American divorce first it will help, because the rabbi will see that you are firm in your committment to end the marriage. So focus on the American divorce then worry about the "get."

Hope this helps
Love Arlene

[SunnyGirl]

( ( ( ( Doris ) ) ) )

You keep hanging in there and I will continue
to keep you in my prayers. I know this is a very
trying time for you and patience is wearing thin....

Sounds like Lildee has been there and done that,
her experience may be very helpful to you. Keep
the faith and know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs, SG

[Tiger]

Hi Doris,

When we take the 3rd step, after that, nothing is happening by mistake in our lives - both the good and the bad - ultimately "good" will come out of this present situation in God's time!!

There's an old AA saying "when we pray for potatoes reach for a hoe.......do the "footwork" and leave the results up to God

FWIW, I got an annulment in the Catholic church after being married to my present wife for many years. Then, we got married in the Church.........so don't give up, be patient....it will all work out!

Tiger