Saturday: Agreeable -or- Disagreeable

[SunnyGirl]

Agreeable -or- Disagreeable

“If you have learned how to disagree without being disagreeable,
then you have discovered the secrete of getting along -- whether it
be business, family relations, or life itself.” - - Bernard Meltzer

I have to work very hard to stay on the agreeable side of
this chip..... God gave us all two ears so we can learn to
be tolerant, I learn by listening. But, God gave us only one
tongue so we would be careful of the words we speak. I
believe the brain he gave me was given so I can think about
my words before speaking. I sometimes think that verbal
abuse is just as hurtful as physical.....

I love the slogan, "keep an open mind" but often times I
have to use a pry bar to keep it open. Stubbornness is a
very difficult defect to defeat..... I used to say I am flexible
until my daughter told me, "Mom you are about the most
inflexible person I know". That hurt! But it also served as
an example of what can happen when we aren't totally honest
with ourselves. Being disagreeable does not make me or any
one around me happy and that is my goal.

I am going to work on listening with out judging and try
to keep an open mind as I listen. I am going to work hard
to master my tongue, so I don't feel the need to expound on
every topic and issue.... To disagree, I don't have to be
disagreeable!

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl

[caressa]

One of the cards I got when I did my meditation today was about listening. The other was in God's time, not mine. The key card was "There's something out of balance in your life, so do whatever you need to do to correct it." I feel like I have two issues, my sleeping and my eating disorder. I just put on my soup and forgot that it was on and it has been bubbling away for about 20 minutes! Who am I to argue with the Universe? I wanted to go out to eat, wanted to order in, and then made the decision to eat what I had on hand.

I was sharing with two different friends yesterday and today about how our expression and body language often speaks volumns. I don't always have to open my mouth to be disagreeable.

If I am accepting of what is, then I have no reason to be disagreeable.

[majestyjo]

Really like the last line, don't remember being that smart. It looks like I need to work on that. It is one thing to say, "Agree to disagree," but so often our body language does give us away.

For me, recovery meant learning that there were shades of gray between that black/white syndrome of either/or with no compromise.

For me, recovery meant learning that there were shades of gray between that black/white syndrome of either/or with no compromise.

Like this little guy, he is saying the words, but looks like he is fearful and hiding from what is confronting him.

[bunnypie]

Hi Jo---I have to practice Live & Let Live and also Let Go & Let God. It was so difficult to try to get help to get my computer fixed. I was real important to me but no so important to some of the people I begged for help. The saying Let Go or be dragged is very powerful and I don't want to be dragged thru emotional hang overs or resentments. I have to really work on acceptance too!!! LOL I guess you could say I am a work in progress!!!
Bunnypie