I need a dad

[DJgrrl]

I am feelign sort of lost today. My dad died about 20 years ago. I wish he was here. I was able to bounce lots of ideas off of him. Also with all eh had been through I felt safe with him.
I am moving from my current place casue I don't feel safe. I coudl really use some help. Maybe God will bring em ehalthy male or 2 that will help adn guide me. My mom ahs had boyfriends but .. not helful ones.
There is one guy now who is kkidna like my dad but he stopped going to Aa meetings. Also I ahev no clue why he dates my mom. There are so many co dependat /Alanonic alcoholics.. you gentlmean really need some of t hat program !!!

[caressa]

My father passed away about 30 years ago. He was never there for me for most of my life. He was one of the reasons that I always seemed to be looking outside of myself for things to make me happy. In recovery, I learned that I needed to be complete and whole within myself. When I look to others, rather than to my God, I become needy. When I become needy, I become greedy.

Never had healthy relationships because I could never detach, set boundaries, and was always the caretaker who always wanted to be taken care of.

A friend of mine says, "I never want to date a person from the fellowship, I want to be the sick one in the relationship." I find that the people who live with an alcoholic, especially a practicing one, becomes sicker than the alcoholic/addict. That is why I also go to Al-Anon.