Acceptance

[SunnyGirl]

Acceptance

"Acceptance is not submission; it is acknowledgment
of the facts of a situation. Then deciding what you're
going to do about it. —Kathleen Casey Theisen

In step-1... I accepted the fact I was powerless over
my addicted loved ones and I acknowledged my
life was unmanageable. Just accepting this fact has
changed my life. Acceptance doesn't mean I have to
like where I'm at or circumstances around me. It means
I can not live like an ostrich and continue to ignore my
part in the chaos my life had become. Running away or
hiding from our problems will never change them! Acceptance
is the beginning to healing and the key to our recovery......

When God gives us lemons, we can make lemonade
or fuss and fume about the bitter lemons. God doesn't
always give us what we want or need, sometimes we
just get what we get! Sometimes, HE loves me right
where I'm at, HE will never desert me but HE wants me
to learn the lesson! Running away from my problems
will never change them, acceptance is the key!

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl

[caressa]

Acceptane is the key to recovery. Until I could accept that I had a problem, I could not heal and get better. It wasn't about the addict in my life, it was about me.

I had to accept my own disease. Just saw this on FB

Stop Fixing Others

Dear Higher Power,

When I am overly dependent on others, I try to fix them. I have a real talent in pinpointing what is wrong with other people. But the very thing that enables me to see their defects most often blinds me to the same, sometimes even worse, shortcomings in myself.

Help me stop fretting about others and instead focus on correcting my own character defects.

[BW]

Something that someone said to me once stuck with me and helped me to see how I was doing such a disservice to those I was trying to "FIX". was that they had lessons to learn too. My attempt at trying to fix them was keeping them from learning the lessons God wanted them to learn. That helped to change my perspective not only on how I reached out to others in need but it also changed my perspective on my own needyness and dependance on others.

Today I am grateful to be living a life of God reliance.

[SunnyGirl]

Thank you both for your shares.... good stuff!

Fixing or enabling our addicted loved ones
just doesn't work. My only choice to do is
to Let Go and Let God....

((((BW)))) a wonderful reminder, if they don't learn
the lesson they can't move on...

Peace on the journey, SG

[majestyjo]

"Acceptance is not submission; it is acknowledgment
of the facts of a situation. Then deciding what you're
going to do about it. —Kathleen Casey Theisen

Really like this, it struck a cord with me today. So many know there is a problem but pull on the blanket of denial and do nothing about it.

The thought that came to mind, "What you going to do?" For me, it was what ever it takes. For my son, it is generally nothing. Knowledge is forewarned. Others just don't want to heed, and figure they can handle it themselves. Many times I had to pray for the willingness to be willing to do.

[majestyjo]

We have lessons to learn too and I know my God kept bringing me back until I became aware and willing to change.