Post by caressa on Aug 5, 2011 2:53:48 GMT -5
If I share my pain and shame I cut in half. If I don't, I double it. - Anon.
- Alkie Speaks
This has proved to be so true for me over the years. Something that is kept inisde, just festers and grows out of proportion. My perception becomes distorted, and whether I share it privately or publically, it is a healing process.
I have found that by vocalizing something, I put order to the thought process. It helps to make sense out of what can be chaos and befuddlement.
My putting it out there, I not only help myself, I hopefully can help others.
I remember going to a meeting and phoning my sponsor afterward. I was quite upset because someone at the meeting disagreed with what I said. I said, "They are my feeling, my esh, how can he disagree with what I said." He may not find that the same thing didn't work for him, or he has has further enlightenment, and has a different percspective of things. What right has he or someone else, to not validate my feelings and belittle who I am in today.
I later learned not to take it personal, it was a hard lesson. I also learned it could be the other person's denial. An even bigger lesson was the fact that my perception needed to be changed and I was in a growth process.
I think of the slogan, "How important is it?" For me, my sobriety is important. Someone agreeing with what I say, not so much. Do I always have to be right? Nope not always! Again, it is good to agree to disagree.
- Alkie Speaks
This has proved to be so true for me over the years. Something that is kept inisde, just festers and grows out of proportion. My perception becomes distorted, and whether I share it privately or publically, it is a healing process.
I have found that by vocalizing something, I put order to the thought process. It helps to make sense out of what can be chaos and befuddlement.
My putting it out there, I not only help myself, I hopefully can help others.
I remember going to a meeting and phoning my sponsor afterward. I was quite upset because someone at the meeting disagreed with what I said. I said, "They are my feeling, my esh, how can he disagree with what I said." He may not find that the same thing didn't work for him, or he has has further enlightenment, and has a different percspective of things. What right has he or someone else, to not validate my feelings and belittle who I am in today.
I later learned not to take it personal, it was a hard lesson. I also learned it could be the other person's denial. An even bigger lesson was the fact that my perception needed to be changed and I was in a growth process.
I think of the slogan, "How important is it?" For me, my sobriety is important. Someone agreeing with what I say, not so much. Do I always have to be right? Nope not always! Again, it is good to agree to disagree.
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.