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Post by caressa on Aug 5, 2011 3:01:32 GMT -5
Not too many thoughts processing at the moment. Today's NA Just For Today reading goes along with this for me. Many times I go looking for solutions and figure I should be able to 'figure it out' and 'I should know better.' It is so much easier to turn things over to my Higher Power and leave things in His hands. Instead of me looking for the solution, I need to let go and see what comes to light! Attachments:
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Post by Lin on Aug 5, 2011 8:14:16 GMT -5
In my pre-alanon days I always tried to force solutions. It almost always turned out badly. I hacve since then learned, I need to just get out of the way and let my HP solve the situation. My life runs much smoohter when I do that.
LIN
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Post by SunnyGirl on Aug 6, 2011 15:59:08 GMT -5
Love the Al-Anon opening statement about: "our thinking
becomes distorted when we try to force solutions and we
become irritable and unreasonable without knowing it"
Well, sometimes I do know I'm being unreasonable, but
learning patience is sometimes a very tough job. I know
GOD must get very exasperated with me trying to get in
front of HIM and stepping on HIS toes. Things always seem
to work out for the best when I turn it over to HIM, so I am
trying to turn it over in prayer a lot quicker these days.
Peace on the journey, SG
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Post by BW on Aug 6, 2011 18:14:38 GMT -5
great topic...I've learned...or I guess it might be more honest to say I am learning that when I am attempting to force the solution I am in my own will...when i let go and/or ask for direction or say "thy will nt mine" then things usually work out a whole lot better than anything i would have tried...and it is a whole less exhausting too..LOL
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Post by SunnyGirl on Aug 7, 2011 13:41:03 GMT -5
well said ((((BW)))
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Post by caressa on Aug 7, 2011 14:35:45 GMT -5
Like you SG, I love the opening Al-Anon statement. It reminds me that my alcoholic/addict is not the only sick one in the house. By trying to get my manipulative, controlling hands on my A, I become the one who is mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically bankrupt.
The blame game kept me sick for a long time. It isn't about my A, it is about me and my recovery from this disease. When I think of it as a dis-ease, I can see that I was embarrassed for them, I was shamed by their behavior because they didn't make me look good.
If they would only do what "I" wanted them to do, everythng would be alright; yet I had no understanding of the disease of addiction. I did not know that they couldn't stop for me or bcause I said they should. They had to find their own willingness. It was very difficult to watch after I found recovery for myself. I could see myself in them and wanted to save them from themselves.
The only thing I could do was pray and stay clean and sober myself. Not just from alcohol and drugs, but stop using people, places and things. Just this weekend, I had to turn my computer over to my Higher Power. I got a very interesting answer when I did my meditation. It was about carrying the message of recovery. It said share what you can and let the rest go.
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 3, 2020 3:47:37 GMT -5
Still sharing.
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.