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Post by caressa on Aug 10, 2011 1:03:24 GMT -5
Keeping their secret keeps you sick.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book"
It sure kept me sick, not just my drinking, but my thoughts and actions. I had to keep everyone else's and couldn't tell mine, Mum was the word in more ways than one.
So many mixed messages, you tell you got hit. If you didn't tell you got hit, especially if it came out after the fact. "Why didn't you tell me." "Would you have listened?"
Nobody could know, yet we were the last to know.
When I married my second husband, his family were known for being the town drunks. My family history was preachers and preacher's kids. Each one in church on Sunday morning. We won't tell what went on during the rest of the week. Sunday seemed to wash it white as snow, or at least under the table. If you can't see it, it is out of mind, it isn't there.
Tunnel vision, rose-coloured glasses, selective hearing, and as they say, only the nose knows, all senses that were over worked and under nourished at least not in their proper direction.
I can never tell! Yes you can! Bring it out of the darkness into the light.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Aug 10, 2011 13:57:42 GMT -5
Not so sure I've ever had that many secrets in my life,
I been blessed for sure.... I never had to tell those little
white lies or cover for other people.
My family wasn't perfect but as a child I don't think
I had any of the hard knocks that many ACOA's have/had.
My Dad got drunk and fell down, Mom loved to go to
the club so she could dance. We girls all chipped in
around the house and had our chores, but Mom cooked
and cleaned, Dad went to work. No scars, no hard feeling!
But all of my life back then was history....
My life has always been an open book, my x-husband tried
to beat me up one time. That was a definite no no and I
filed for divorce.... it was a mistake in judgment to marry
him anyway! But that was when I was young and dumb,
history I never brought forward into today.
No secrets today, when I'm angry I don't bury it, I speak
my mind and put it away. Today my life is good and I have
no regrets, no quarrels, no problems that God and I can't
work out.
Peace on the journey, SG
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Post by caressa on Aug 13, 2011 14:51:40 GMT -5
People fear the Fourth Step, yet it is the gateway to freedom. It is an inventory of what is within me, good and bad and the ugly. How can I change if I don't know what needs changing What can I nurture and fuel so it will grow, if I don't know it is there?
Have done several 4th Steps, it helped me to do the Step study that I did here. It had been a long time since I had written out step work.
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Post by majestyjo on May 3, 2020 22:29:33 GMT -5
We are asked to unearth our secrets. I was told to examine my motives and my intent. It wasn't how many times I did something, but admitting I did it. I am a liar, cheat and a thief. I liked to myself and wore that blanket of denial for years. Was always looking for the quick fix. Looking for a short cut. I stole time and affection to get attention and if I could talk you out of money, drinks, etc.
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.