Post by caressa on Nov 9, 2007 1:33:36 GMT -5
You may be falling apart, you may be "being strong," or you may be falling apart and trying very hard to "be strong." No matter what you are doing, someone will be telling you that you "should" respond differently. So respond how you respond in your recovery. Just don't pick up!
I respond the way I respond and it must be right,
because I'm clean and sober now!
Excerpt from the Pocket Sponsor, By The
Hazelden author of ' Day By Day' & other Meditation Books
I respond the way I respond and it must be right,
because I'm clean and sober now!
Excerpt from the Pocket Sponsor, By The
Hazelden author of ' Day By Day' & other Meditation Books
It is amazing how many leading authorities there are in recovery. I had to find what worked for me. I have been critized for having too many sponsors. Over the years, I have had several and they taught me the lesson(s) they had to teach me, then it was time to move on. I had to find the way that was right for me. I had a NA sponsor who was very condescending and looked down on me because I didn't do street drugs The drugs were but a symptom of my disease. I had an Al-Anon sponsor for years. At the beginning it was a good relationship, then her sponsor passed away, and her health failed and we didn't talk often and it was generally me listening to her. That was okay, because she was going through a rough time. She moved away and past away a few years ago.
For years I had an AA sponsor and a Co-Sponsor. One was a spiritual advisor and the other a service sponsor. I was told to hang with the long timers. I said, "Where are they, they don't go to meetings. If they go, it is to their own they don't go to other meetings. I went to meetings all over the city and as my spiritual advisor said, "You can learn to things in the room of recovery. HOw to work your program and how not to work your program. When I see so many relapses, so many people not walking their talk, so many people relapsing after long-term sobriety, so many people not going to meeting, and so many hiding out in speaker meetings. I have to wonder about the future of AA.
Gossip is a killer. It nearly drove me out of the rooms many times. If I didn't have to be here, because I couldn't go back to where I came from, I would have left a long time ago.
Someone in CA asked me why do they say, Principles before personalities so often. I said, "Because the natural thing seems to be personalities before principles, and people have to be reminded of the message they need carry.