Saturday: Agreeable -or- Disagreeable

[SunnyGirl]

Agreeable -or- Disagreeable

"If you have learned how to disagree without being
disagreeable, then you have discovered the secrete
of getting along -- whether it be business, family
relations, or life itself." - - Bernard Meltzer

I just hate it when I get cranky and disagreeable and once
I recognize it, I try to take a time out..... I figure if it works
for kids, as adults we need to take that same action. As adults
we are expected to sit down and work things out. Just listening
to what others say and being a little slower to respond buys me
a little time!

I'm finding that if I take a deep breath and release it slowly
it helps me to rethink my issues. No one is expected to just
blindly agree just for the sake of being agreeable.... But, if
we take a moment to rethink what was being said it gives us
a chance to seek clarity. My brain can sometimes play tricks
on me, what I thought I understood was not at all what others
were trying to tell me and if I can clarify it, it saves me from
needless pain and anxiety.

Rule #1.... if all else fails, agree to disagree! Just as I have
my personal truths, so do others! In the grand scheme of
things I need to always remember: Do I want to be right or
do I want to be happy? Just for today I choose happiness....

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl

[caressa]

A good one today, although not feeling very disagreeable today.

I read last night, take a time out. Breathe postive in and breathe negative out.

It isn't normal for me to walk away, I use to be in there like a dirty shirt. If chaos wasn't happening, I often caused it to spice life up. Same old was always boring and got tired of the same thing over and over again. Even on my job, I was a file clerk when I started work at 17. I had an inquiring mind. Wanting to know and ended up working in every department in an office. On my last job, my boss called me Office Manager. To me, I was just a Girl Friday, someone who did everything, mainly because he was too cheap to hire someone else and wanted me to do the work of three people.

He use to say, "I hate it when you are right." He looked to find something to prove me wrong. Not sure if it was all me and my attitude or we were just two peas in a pod.

When I went to work for him he had 2 shops. He had 5 when I left because he bounced my pay cheque for the 3rd time. Within 3 years he was bankrupt. When I went to work for him, he said you have to where many hats. Which I found out later to mean, I rob Peter to pay Paul and my creditors are after me. I had to learn to be agreeable to people on the phone who were feeling very disagreeable.

When I come across someone who is disagreeable, I try to find out what their motive and intent are with the hope that we can meet on common ground.

[majestyjo]

It is okay to agree to disagree. If we all thought alike, what a boring life this would be.

[bunnypie]

This isn't on the list of chips but it sure is a good idea! I can agree to disagree. to quote Dave Mason "there ain't no good guy there ain't no bad guy there's only you and me and we just disagree" Rock & Roll wisdom!!!!--------Bunnypie