Aware of others — Self-centered

[SunnyGirl]

Aware of others — Self-centered

"Self-hatred and self-love are equally self-centered." — Mason Cooley

It's not a pretty site to watch people people who are in
the middle of a melt down due to an extreme self-centered
pity party. All they can see or grasp is their wants and needs,
and are willing to do or say anything to get their way. They
are totally blinded to what others around them may need or
what they might do to give someone else a hand up. People
who are self-centered are wallowing in their woes and their
growth stunted.... Until we can all open our eyes we will
remain stuck in this childish behavior.

Every now and then I do revert back to these behaviors and
have to look around me for examples of people I want to be
like when I grow up. I read the words and watch the examples
of those around me and those who come to the boards and
share their experience, strength and hope. I learn from all
of you here at EOR, in the meetings and on the boards. I want
to be a good example to others, not a glaring warning of what
others try to avoid....

It's my prayer that my eyes will always open to see someone
in need.... giving them a hand up or a smile is sometimes all
it takes. The world does not rotate around me, I pray for
humility and that God will open my eyes to recognize the needs
of others as well as my own.

Peace on the journey, SunnyGirl

[caressa]

As the angel card said, "Caressa, I share because I care," many years ago applies to me in today. Have always put EoR first and it has been my home base for many years, I did not leave it voluntarily. I am a firm believer that "Readings" help newcomers. They sure helped me, and they continue to help me. It is through them that I get daily inspiration and food for thought.

It makes me sad that they are no longer allowed on this site. I didn't always respond to them because I felt as though they spoke for themselves, they didn't need my two cents added to them. Other times, they have stayed with me, even to the next day, and I have come back and shared on the topic.

The best way to get out of 'self' is to help someone else. The best way for me to detach from my own pain is to come here, share with others and read old post for what I need. I can't get out to meetings, many are not wheel chair accessible.

Tonight affirmed that going out to night meetings cause me pain. I felt uplifted spiritual as a result of being there. I really enjoyed the meeting. I got lots of hugs and kind words from old friends who where glad to see me. I always felt better after being to a meeting. The only difference tonight I was in much more physical pain when I got home.

In the past, I have had a migraine all day, gone to share my story at a treatment center, prayed all the way there, God this one is yours, because I am not up to it. Ten minutes into my talk all trace of the migraine was gone.

The only gift that I have to give back to my Higher Power is my big mouth that speaks through my fingers.

[majestyjo]

It makes me sad to see the visitor numbers drop so low at EoR, it has been my home group for so many years.

When I can't get out, it has been my home away from home. Even though I recently joined a new AA group, I still need EoR. My focus has been on Al-Anon for more than 8 years, but I can never lose site of the fact that I am an alcoholic. The same goes for going to AA, I can't forget that I have 3-33 reasons to go to Al-Anon.

It was brought home to me today as I met two members of AA who were a big part of my early recovery.