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Post by SunnyGirl on Aug 20, 2011 14:19:31 GMT -5
Saturday, August 20, 2011
Everything in life that we really accept undergoes a change. So suffering must become love. That is the mystery. —Katherine Mansfield
Acceptance of those conditions that at times plague us changes not only the conditions but, in the process, ourselves. Perhaps this latter change is the more crucial. As each changes, as we all change into more accepting women, life's struggles ease. When we accept all the circumstances that we can't control, we are more peaceful. Smiles more easily fill us up.
It's almost as though life's eternal lesson is acceptance, and with it comes life's eternal blessings.
Every day offers me many opportunities to grow in acceptance and thus blessings. I can accept any condition today and understand it as an opportunity to take another step toward serenity, eternal and whole.
From: Each Day a New Beginning by Karen Casey
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Post by BW on Aug 21, 2011 0:29:00 GMT -5
And dat's da truf!!
Thanx for the reminder SG
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Post by caressa on Aug 21, 2011 4:28:07 GMT -5
Acceptance is such a big part of recovery. When we come in, we have a lot of grief work to day. We not only need to accept the loss of our drug of choice, but the loss of old using friends, places we use to score at, and the loss of old patterns, beliefs, and habits.
In order to grieve, we need to find acceptance. In order to change, we need acceptance, in order to grow in recovery we need to find acceptance. I was really shocked when I heard two people say, "Acceptance isn't a part of recovery because it isn't mentioned in the first 164 pages of the Big Book.
If you don't find exceptance, to my way of thinking, you will be lucky to get to the page 164 without relapsing.
I have to accept my health issues. I have to accept my limitations, and that is something I have problems with.
I fought growing old, which is total insanity. I went kicking and screaming all the way. Now I think I am in a danger zone, because for the most part I don't care, not so much about my age, but about some of the things that I use to think were vital. Like not leaving the house without earrings. I got to the elevator and realized I didn't have them on and was going to go back but I had promised to be downstairs by 7 p.m. so my word was more important than the earrings. I need to accept the changes in me. I went blonde at my son's suggestion. I enjoyed being a blonde. I liked the attention I got. I finally came to realize that I just didn't have the energy or the inclination to keep it up. My white hair is attractive enough. As an AA member once said, "Do you think we won't recognize you if you change your hair colour and style?" Accept who you are in today. Walk proud and be yourself.
Acceptance is the key to all of my promblems, real or imagined in today. As the quote says, "We need to learn to love ourselves and accept ourselves as we are in today." It helped me to love myself when I lost 16 lbs. from being sick. although that isn't the way it is suppose to be done.
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Post by BW on Aug 21, 2011 4:48:54 GMT -5
Acceptance is as the book says the answer to all my problems. In early recovery my sponosr took the time to explain to this well educated nurse the stages of grief. I say well educated becuase I was so arrogant to think I had all the answers. However the pieces began to shift in my mind and in my heart when she explained to me that I had to walk thru all those stages of grief and sometimes vacilate between them before finally reaching aceptance. Then she went on to say "Surrender comes before acceptance" We can not reach acceptance until we surrender.
I have reached many points of surrender along this journey of recovery. I have fallen flat on my face. the easiest way I have found to get back up fronm that fall was to get on my knees and ask for help. The process doesn't stop there tho. The lessons on acceptance coontinued on as I learned I needed to learn how to be a gracious receiver of that help.
Today i carry the SWAt team with me
Surrender Willingness Acceptance Trust
Surrender to Him Willing to allow him to guide me or to pick me up Accept His teachings, guidance and discipline Trust He will never steer me wrong
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Post by caressa on Aug 21, 2011 5:05:34 GMT -5
Good stuff. For me, Step one is honesty, surrender and acceptance, so it is something I have to reach each day.
I have to open my mind and as you say willing to change.
I was told that the grief process has many stages and we often fluctuate between each stage, we can reach acceptance and go back to bargaining. We don't do it in order.
I really miss the search engine we use to have at the bottom of the message board. I could research old posts, look for topics without duplicating them. I would like to be able to add on to a post without having to go through each page in each forum.
I know there are post on grief work here, because I posted them. I got a lot of it from Melody Beattie's Language of Letting Go. It starts on November 1st.
Accepting what is in the moment, knowing that it is subject to change, has helped me on my journey. Knowing I didn't have to like it, helped me to get there much quicker.
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Post by caressa222 on Nov 12, 2019 1:10:40 GMT -5
Accepting my addiction. Accepting that I have a disease. Accepting that I am powerless. Accepting the program. Accepting myself was difficult.
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