Post by caressa on Aug 28, 2011 6:24:51 GMT -5
Selfishness, self-seeking and self-centeredness sound the same but I learned they're different: Selfishness is 'It's all for me.' - Self-centeredness is 'It's all about me' - Self-seeking is 'What's in it for me?' - Scott R.
Not sure, I think my posts were all about me this morning. Hopefully about me, trying to put into practice, self care.
For so many years, I focused on others with no thought of myself. Even in recovery, I got so caught up in 'helping others' that I didn't take care of myself and suffered from burn out at least once a year.
In a lot of ways, AA and Al-Anon give opposite messages, but in truth, they are one. If you take care of yourself, you have the energy to give to others. You are not running around on empty fumes, going through the motions, saying what is suppose to be said, and finding yourself sick, not only in body but at heart too.
I spread myself so thin that I couldn't give time to everyone and somethings got left by the wayside, not just my sites but my personal life.
As they say in Al-Anon, "Let It Begin With Me." As they say in AA, "Remember When." Remember what it was like when you USED people, places and things. It wasn't always about the alcohol, it was what you used to get what you wanted, which was alcohol.
I had a sure indicator last night that I needed to get back to some meetings. I had a using dream. I was all dressed up, and on a bus and missed my stop. I later showed up in the Legion up home, with a few familiar faces all dressed to the nices with a pair of dangly earrings, a happening looking for a place to land. I didn't order a drink, I used an excuse to be there, I think I was looking for someone, yeah right! I got out of there, saw others heading there and walked away instead of going back in. If you put yourself into the places that are not good for you, you will eventually pick up.
We relapse mentally, emotionally and spiritually before we actually pick up physically.
Not sure, I think my posts were all about me this morning. Hopefully about me, trying to put into practice, self care.
For so many years, I focused on others with no thought of myself. Even in recovery, I got so caught up in 'helping others' that I didn't take care of myself and suffered from burn out at least once a year.
In a lot of ways, AA and Al-Anon give opposite messages, but in truth, they are one. If you take care of yourself, you have the energy to give to others. You are not running around on empty fumes, going through the motions, saying what is suppose to be said, and finding yourself sick, not only in body but at heart too.
I spread myself so thin that I couldn't give time to everyone and somethings got left by the wayside, not just my sites but my personal life.
As they say in Al-Anon, "Let It Begin With Me." As they say in AA, "Remember When." Remember what it was like when you USED people, places and things. It wasn't always about the alcohol, it was what you used to get what you wanted, which was alcohol.
I had a sure indicator last night that I needed to get back to some meetings. I had a using dream. I was all dressed up, and on a bus and missed my stop. I later showed up in the Legion up home, with a few familiar faces all dressed to the nices with a pair of dangly earrings, a happening looking for a place to land. I didn't order a drink, I used an excuse to be there, I think I was looking for someone, yeah right! I got out of there, saw others heading there and walked away instead of going back in. If you put yourself into the places that are not good for you, you will eventually pick up.
We relapse mentally, emotionally and spiritually before we actually pick up physically.
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.