the 3 C's

[Lin]

the three C's...I didn't CAUSE it, can't CONTROL it and can't CURE it.

I didn't cause it...nothing I did or didn't do could make the alcoholics in my life drink or not drink. Even though I was often told If I didn't do sos and so they would not drink..that's jsut not so. Alcoholics drink because they are acloholics..not because of me.

I can't control it. There is nothing I can do or not do to control how much they drink. Hiding the keys, rationing the money, pouring it out, etc...none of that works. I have tried all of that and then csome. Nothing worked, but I kept thinking the next thing I figured out do do would work.

I can't cure it? No amount of driving them to a meeting or posting meeting schedules all over the house aor calling rehabs to try to get them in will make them quit until they are ready to quit. It's jsut not up to me.

Realizing the reality of the three C's has helped me find peace and serenity. It helped me not be so angry and frustrated.

LIN

[SunnyGirl]

thank you for sharing, good stuff Lin!

Remembering the 3-C's allows me to respond to my addicted
loved ones behavior by taking care of ME, instead of reacting.
If I start feeling angry, then I'll take the steps necessary to
stop my destructive thoughts and get back into myself. The
key to me is to get the focus off them and put it back on myself.
I can always walk away from a potential argument and finish
the discussion later in a calmer frame of mind.....

Peace on the journey, SG

[caressa]

Had a similiar thought this weekend Lin. Thanks for sharing. It applies to all the AAs in my life, past and present. It is also applicable to the members of my own family in regard to my own disease.

In fact the less they did, the more inclined I was to help myself.

[BW]

Yep..understanding the three C's leads me to acceptance love and tolerance

thanx Lin

[majestyjo]

Sometimes I forget.