Post by SunnyGirl on Nov 19, 2003 10:45:37 GMT -5
TODAY'S THOUGHT - WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 19, 2003
From the book: The Language Of Letting Go.
Accepting Our Feelings
Why do we struggle so with our feelings? Why do we
work so hard to deny our emotions, especially
concerning other people? They are only feelings!
In the course of a day, we may deny we feel frustrated
in reaction to someone who is selling us a service.
We may deny that we feel frustrated, angry, or hurt in
reaction to a friend.
We may deny feelings of fear, or anger, toward our
children.
We may deny a whole range of feelings toward our
spouse or the person with whom we're in a love
relationship.
We may deny feelings provoked by people we work
for, or by people who work for us.
Sometimes the feelings are a direct reaction to others.
Sometimes people trigger something deeper - an old
sadness or frustration.
Regardless of the source of our feelings, they are still
our feelings. We own them. And acceptance is often all
that is necessary to make them go away.
We don't have to let our feelings control our behavior.
We don't have to act on each feeling that passes
through us. We do not need to indulge in inappropriate
behavior.
It does help to talk about our feelings with someone
we trust. Sometimes we need to bring our feelings to
the person who is triggering them. That can breed
intimacy and closeness. But the most important person
we need to tell is ourselves. If we allow our feelings to
pass through us, accept them, and release them, we
shall know what to do next.
Today, I will remember that feelings are an important
part of my life. I will be open to my feelings in family life,
in friendships, in love, and at work. I will feel my feelings
without judging myself.
Author: Melody Beattie
From the book: The Language Of Letting Go.
Accepting Our Feelings
Why do we struggle so with our feelings? Why do we
work so hard to deny our emotions, especially
concerning other people? They are only feelings!
In the course of a day, we may deny we feel frustrated
in reaction to someone who is selling us a service.
We may deny that we feel frustrated, angry, or hurt in
reaction to a friend.
We may deny feelings of fear, or anger, toward our
children.
We may deny a whole range of feelings toward our
spouse or the person with whom we're in a love
relationship.
We may deny feelings provoked by people we work
for, or by people who work for us.
Sometimes the feelings are a direct reaction to others.
Sometimes people trigger something deeper - an old
sadness or frustration.
Regardless of the source of our feelings, they are still
our feelings. We own them. And acceptance is often all
that is necessary to make them go away.
We don't have to let our feelings control our behavior.
We don't have to act on each feeling that passes
through us. We do not need to indulge in inappropriate
behavior.
It does help to talk about our feelings with someone
we trust. Sometimes we need to bring our feelings to
the person who is triggering them. That can breed
intimacy and closeness. But the most important person
we need to tell is ourselves. If we allow our feelings to
pass through us, accept them, and release them, we
shall know what to do next.
Today, I will remember that feelings are an important
part of my life. I will be open to my feelings in family life,
in friendships, in love, and at work. I will feel my feelings
without judging myself.
Author: Melody Beattie
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.