Post by caressa on Nov 30, 2011 6:42:19 GMT -5
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
Judge yourself by your insides not by someone else's outsides.
This was such a big issue for me. Not only low self-esteem and very little self-confidence, I looked to others to copy, because if I could do what they do, look like they do, I would be better.
I didn't know that it was alright to be myself. And as it says, their outsides may be covering up their own insecurities and could be a mask, just like the one I was wearing and playing the same role(s) you are.
I went to meetings and said, "Well I didn't do that, I can't be an alcoholic. I don't like beer, I can't be an alcoholic, alkies will drink anything." I was hearing the words, not listening to what was not being said, the pain, the feelings, and the reasons why they used in the first place.
It all goes back to emotional sobriety. It was act/react, and I was always looking at others, never seeing who the real me had become.
Judge yourself by your insides not by someone else's outsides.
This was such a big issue for me. Not only low self-esteem and very little self-confidence, I looked to others to copy, because if I could do what they do, look like they do, I would be better.
I didn't know that it was alright to be myself. And as it says, their outsides may be covering up their own insecurities and could be a mask, just like the one I was wearing and playing the same role(s) you are.
I went to meetings and said, "Well I didn't do that, I can't be an alcoholic. I don't like beer, I can't be an alcoholic, alkies will drink anything." I was hearing the words, not listening to what was not being said, the pain, the feelings, and the reasons why they used in the first place.
It all goes back to emotional sobriety. It was act/react, and I was always looking at others, never seeing who the real me had become.
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.