* Setting Goals *

[SunnyGirl]

Setting Goals

Hey DJ.... I'm back from the appointment so decided to
go ahead and start the discussion topic you suggested.

Mar 5, 2012 14:56:07 GMT -5 SunnyGirl said:

Setting Goals

Having goals but keeping them realistic, for the day or the
year, is a sign of emotional health. Not dwelling on those that
can't be accomplished, at the moment, is another sign. A change
of attitude is all most of us need to move from where we are to
a better place emotionally.

There's never a better time than right now for rejoicing over
what I've done. - - From: Each Day a New Beginning

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I've been coming to EOR since nearly the beginning.....
I am a grateful member of Al-anon - Naranon - ACOA
my qualifiers are all family members, a younger sis,
my younger son, my daughter & my dad etc. etc. etc.
Addiction has run in my family for years and I came
to working the 12-steps with the help of an on-line
friend almost 10 years ago. I grow and learn something
new each and every day!

I try never to give advice, but I can share what's worked
for me...... My biggest goal in recovery is to stay sane
and work the steps, one day at a time. By doing this
I've found my life to be more serene and there is peace
all around me.

In my day to day life I do strive to set goals for myself,
but I call these goals my "to do list".... I make a list
of what I want to accomplish, but I keep the list short.
I can always add to it later.... If I fail to reach my goal,
I never beat myself up over it, but I keep trying.

One things for sure, I don't set the bar to high.... when
I was younger, I wanted to be a brain surgeon but that
didn't work out. I then decided to get married and have
kids and that I did. I worked as a hostess for several
years and my Honey and I ended up opening our own
supper club. We worked at that for over 10 years but
having a bar and slot machines I ended up turning in my
notice to the hubby. Drunks and gambling addicts were
wearing my patience thin.....

If my goal was looking for work, I'd seek help with writing
my résumé and set out to pound the streets, filling out
applications until I found something. With the economy
the way it is, I'd have to be willing to work hard at finding
a job. I'd also look into some of the training programs
they have if my experience was limited.

For me today, my job is that of a caretaker for Honey.
I'm his homemaker, chauffeur, secretary, nurse, dietitian
& Dr. Mom. If he needs brain surgery, I'm not qualified!

Have a great day, SG

[BW]

Like SG said...setting realistic goals is important...remembering that I am human and may make mistakes is likewise important..I cannot expect myself to be perfect.. I learned that when I set goals I need to make a plan to achieve those goals..and that plan is much like the steps of our recovery program. If I need help --I ask for it and for me it is essentail to recieve that help graciously.

Also when that help arrives it is important to not be dependant on that help to do for me what I am capable of doing for myself, nor do I take advantage of that help by stepping back and having them do the work but I ask them to show me or talk me thru it as I put my hand to the plow.

The other essential ingredient in acheiing goals for me is to remember whatever I accomplish is not of my own doing and gratitude always, ALWAYS goes to my Higher Power.

[caressa]

Goals are not something that I set, and if I do they are tenative. It seems like every time I do set them, my God has other plans for me.

The best thing I can do is stay grounded, make sure I ask for clarity of thought, my inner knowingness, my capabilities and my reality and be in the moment. When I do that, I can't go far wrong. As they say, "Something from nothing, is still nothing." If I don't have high expectations with my goals and accept what comes as a result of setting them, then I generally end up where I am suppose to be. A good example was being well enough to go to the Detention Center on Monday, even though I was unable to play bridge on Tuesday as a result of my choice.

As BW says, always to be grateful. It goes to my Higher Power and to the people that He put into my life. Without them, there is no me. I need that Good Orderly Direction to obtain my goals.

[majestyjo]

Setting goals are important.  We spent too many years just existing, putting our life on hold for others.

We plan we just don't plan outcomes.  Don'tlimit your God by you narrow outlook.


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