Topic - Forgiveness

[SunnyGirl]

Nar-Anon Meeting Tonight !

Time: 9pm eastern ~ 8pm central ~ 6pm pacific

Moderator: Sunnygirl

Tonights Topic: ~Forgiveness~

The number one way to relieve pain is to forgive.

Please join us and share your, experience, strength
and hope.........

Hugs, Sunnygirl

[usdupn02]

A topic I really need but not sure I will be able to make the meeting tonight. I will share now, just in case. I can forgive a lot of things and a lot of people. I have even been able to forgive my "A" for some of the things that have been done all in the name of the next high. What I am having trouble forgiving is somebody who abuses drugs, people (domestic violence), and legal system. I have to tolerate this person to an extent as he is the father of my god-daughter (which many of you may remember my posts about her trying to commit suicide and catching her daddy dealing drugs). To date the courts still say she has to see him and she still wants to see him. I cannot seem to forgive this man for all the stuff he has done to people I care about. I get very anxious and angry anytime he has to be dealt with or discussed. I can detach physically as I try to make it a point not to be around if he is coming to pick up his daughter or watch her in some event she might be participating in. I can't seem to get to the actual forgiving part however and it really bugs me. I am trying to let go and let God but to date, it's not happenning. The man has not changed at all. Still deals, still in court every other week, still

Thanks for the much needed topic SG.

Janet

[Caressa2]

Forgiveness is a big issue for me too. Over the years I have learned that I need to forgive the person as a child of God who deserves my prayers for recovery and a spiritual awakening. My ex-sponsor says, "Pray for his health, his happiness, and that he receives spiritual and physical blessings. If you pray for spiritual awareness than they can't continue doing what they are doing.

We forgive the person as a sick individual, but we don't have to forgive the act. Somethings are just not acceptable, but when we allow them to take over our thinking, we are the ones who are hurting and they are walking around rent free. We need to let go and let God, I know have been there many times.

[SunnyGirl]

Wonderful shares on forgiveness.......

"We forgive the person as a sick individual,
but we don't have to forgive the act."

.......excellent point and very true statement!

The meeting last night was filled with excellent
shares from the heart. I have always heard that
forgiveness is for me, not for the other person. I
am not capable of giving absolution to other's, that
is God's job. But, asking my H.P. to forgive them
for their wrong doings against me, helps rid me of
the anger and resentments that I carried around.

Thanks for your replies..... SG

[SunnyGirl]

"Forgiveness is an act of self-love".