Burning Bridges

[usdupn02]

Well the "A" just got kicked out of the the brain and spinal clinic program because she violated the contract she had to sign stating she would not abuse drugs.
Color me shocked!! This is the same lady that I mentioned in my other post of hitting her my god-daughter. She has pretty much blown so many rehabs that they aren't going to put her in the hospital unless she has a plan for suicide or homicide. This is what I was told. She has been reported concerning hitting the child (Her dr. did this reporting) in the hopes that they will come into the home and start doing family counseling. In the meantime, her psychiatrist is trying to control her moods with medication (great thing for an addict huh!) and has diagnosed her with bi-polar dis-order. I am trying really hard to work this program and remember that it is a disease but d**n it is hard right now. Very concerned for the kids while they are trying to control her mood swings and that says nothing for the illegal drug use. I have a plan for keeping the kids underwatch and away from home as much as possible from now thru the weekend but at any time she or the dad (who is also and addict) can flip flop and I won't even be able to see the kids. We all know how active addicts can be. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers as I do all of you at EOR.

Janet

[SunnyGirl]

( ( ( ( Janet ) ) ) )

I am sending prayers for you and this family, it is so
very sad to see them all going thru this. It is most
important for you to keep the focus on you, you will
not be of any help if you allow this to turn your world
upside down.

My daughter is a recovering addict (almost 4 years
clean and sober) and was diagnosed bi-polar about
15 years ago. I know when she was actively using
her mood swings were a nightmare. When she took
her medications, she seemed to stabilize and was
a lot more rational. But, taking meds was not a priority
when she was using. Today, she is not only clean,
but she has her bi-polar condition under control as
well.

The serenity prayer reminds me that I can not change
the addict. But, I can make changes in my life that
will benefit not only myself but the people around me.
You hang on to your sanity and try to avoid the chaos!
If you have to step in, for the sake of the children,
do it with care and much prayer. You are in my thoughts
and prayers..... Hugs, SG

[Caressa2]

My prayers are with you, it is indeed difficult. My son hasn't been diagnosed with anything, mainly because he won't go for help of any kind although he is talking about going to therapy with his girlfriend for their relationship.

The thought I got when I read your post was "I love you, but I don't have to like you and your actions when you are using!" I really had to inforce this with myself because I felt a lot of guilt about the way I felt when he did things that hurt me even if sometimes they were unintensional.