Topic - Forcing Solutions

[SunnyGirl]

Discussion topic: Forcing Solutions

It's almost funny how I can get ahead of God and try
to "force solutions" to a problem. I try to look ahead
to the future and anticipate how things should turn out.

I want.... I need.... I have to have....

All the time and work I put into figuring out just how I
want it to end up, God always seems to have another
plan and my efforts were for nothing.......

One of the hardest things for me to learn is patience...
I have almost totally quit asking God for any more,
HIS answer is tribulations.

Trying to "force solutions" is part of my need to control
or manipulate the out come. The more I struggle to
control, the more out of control my life becomes. The
future and outcome, of all of my life is contained in God's
will. It will happen exactly the way HE has it planned
and my efforts to put my will in front of HIS are all for
naught.

Letting go and letting God, requires that I accept HIS
will in all things. I may never know why he chose
a certain path, but I have to have faith that HIS will is
the perfect way.....

Are you still trying to force solutions?
Are you still making plans and expecting a certain outcome?

Peace on the journey, SG

[dg]

Forcing solutions..
Oh yes, most definitly trying to force changes and then I get stuck. at the changes that I want to make, because I don't feel like its the right change after I make that attempt.
So, I have had to hold myself back and do this kind of thinking, Let go~ Let God. Have the change come to me naturally. I may not agree with the outcome of it, yet, I also have to remind myself that I have to take what comes before me.
Its almost like when you argue with your parents when they say no, and thats it!! so.. here I am once again learning to accept what is suppose to happen, take as it comes and learn to grow with it.

[usdupn02]

Forcing solutions...Oh yeah that is me right now. Patience is zip and anger is high. I have a strong sense of justice and when it isn't served immediately, I really get worked up and want to take things into my own hands.

Of course, all it does is make me physically sick. Let go and Let God....I am really trying but dang he is slow sometimes. lol In the meantime, I have to keep a constant check on myself to keep from getting in the way of his will.

Seems like I am always frustrated with myself thru these trials and the more I try to let go, the more frustrated I get because I can't. Grrrrr.

Thanks for the timely topic SG.

Janet

[SunnyGirl]

Mornin Donna and Janet....

I remember when I first began this journey,
I was so impatient. I continued to try to
manipulate the outcome and as a child I would
pout and fuss when I didnt get my way...

The poem, "Broken Toys" holds a place in my
heart and when I am tempted to get in God's
business I will read it again.....

As children bring their broken toys
with tears for us to mend,
I brought my broken dreams to God
because He was my friend.

But then instead of leaving Him
in peace to work alone,
I hung around and tried to help
with ways that were my own.

At last I snatched them back and cried
"How can You be so slow?"
"My child," He said, "What could I do?
You never did let go."

When I was a kid, I would get discouraged and
would want to quit if I didnt get it right. My very
wise grandmother would tell me, "don't say I can't-
say I'll try".....

Every day is a brand new day in recovery...
I get a new chance to get it right!
All I have to do is keep the focus on me and
trust my Higher Power to show me the way... ODAT

Luv to each, SG

[Caressa2]

One of my favorite lines, generally spoken to the Man Upstairs is "Couldn't you just give me a little hint so the both of us know what you are doing?"

Another line I tend to use, "Inquiring minds want to know!" Patience certainly isn't one of my virtues, but one thing I have learned, if I practice it, things all turn out for the better in the long run. I end up less fatigued, because I don't worry, manipulate, con and force people, places and things into the way I want them to be.

Some things just are! I am powerless over them, and me trying to change them or get my own way is rather like a little girl having a hissy fit.

I was told that the reasons things don't always happen when I want them to happen is because all the players are not in their place, that the world doesn't revolve around me and I have to consider the whole equation.

[SunnyGirl]

Hi Caressa...

I think I have asked God those same questions.....

But sometimes the answer is right there in front
of my nose and I couldn't here HIM for all my ranting
and raving.

I also believe that HE has shown me the solution,
but it's just not the one I want to hear. Trusting
God comes from constant contact..... ODAT

Thanks for sharing.....

Peace on the journey, SG

[majestyjo]

Doesn't work. As the saying goes, Good things come to those who wait