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Post by Lin on Sept 4, 2012 12:10:28 GMT -5
My home growning up was very unpredictable. Most nights ended listenign to my parents argue and fight. Many ngihts they wre throwing things and somebody got bloody when an ashtray or shoe or dish hit them. So there was alo of excitement. Agfter I maddied I noticed that we both had grown up in similar homes and BOTH of us craved excitement. If life was boring one of us would do somethign to cause a little excitement....most often it was a verbal batle that ensued.
Today I dont want that kind of excitement in my life. So I refuse to get intot he arguments. I may have to allow him to THINK he won an arguement by saying YOU MAY BE RIGHT. Or I may jstu say let me think abotu it and talk to you tomorrow. That stops alot of that excitement.
Do you crave excitement ?
LIN
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Post by SunnyGirl on Sept 4, 2012 13:23:48 GMT -5
I have to admit we did have a little excitement at our
house... Both my parents drank and all their friends
as well, so when they'd get together for a card game
we knew it was coming. I thought it was fun, but then
again I never saw either parent try to hurt the other.
My days of excitement probably ended when I quit
allowing others to push my buttons or take advantage
of me. My life is quiet and I like it that way.... In fact
I have to really push myself to not become reclusive!
Honey can get fidgety so I encourage him to go and
do something he enjoys, it usually pertains to golf.
Our date night is usually centered around going out
to dinner... We haven't been to a movie in years, last
visit to a theater was to see "My Big Fat Greek Wedding".
Thanks for the topic Lin... made me think!
Peace on the journey, SG
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Post by caressa on Sept 6, 2012 22:54:04 GMT -5
When I was going into the jails for AA and NA, the Young Offenders were very big on this. Half their High was on the getting away with the theft and getting away from the cops, or getting the drugs to use, a lot of crack houses are near cop shops or so I was told by addicts in recovery.
Know for myself, that if things got boring, I tended to make it unboring. I was just thinking the other day, with Hess Village near by and all this weird music (even my son complained the other night) and having to wear ear plugs to go to sleep), I was thinking I should wear them on the computer to shut out the noise when I am posting. I thought, YOU ARE GETTING OLD!
I use to be the first one on the dance floor and the last one off and if you didn't ask me, I asked you. Now I would be lucky if I could get through a whole slow dance on a good day and would be down for the count for three days as a result of such a unwise decision.
I like my peace and quiet today. Some days I wonder at myself when I find myself shutting off the noise, and finding it too noisy outside and putting in my ear plugs because the outside is invading my space, when I am meditating or reading. I don't need to, it depends what is going on, but when they were building the hotel across from me, plus the fact that I live off a main street, it did get a bit noisy.
So nice to be comfortable in my own space. It is also nice, to know that I have the right to protect my own space.
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Post by Lin on Sept 8, 2012 6:14:32 GMT -5
Interesting reply Caressa. Thanks. As I read your post it reminded me of the things my husband did when he was drinking every day. Once he stole a truck from the place he used to work. He drove it across town and parked it in the hospital parking lot and left it. He didn't need the truck. He just wanted to take it to see if he could get away with it. Stupid. In his mind it was a thrill. But I thought it was jsut stupid and foolish.
LIN
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Post by godsjem on Sept 21, 2012 8:40:30 GMT -5
Addiction to excitement has raised its ugly head again the last year and a half. My life got turned upside down after years of sobriety and peace and it started up the whole snowball effect of life showing up, me adding to the drama by my reactions which caused life to show up and I reacted etc. I grew up in home where I would come home to what I called world war 3 every night in our home. I was so content for years in what was such a boring life as I called it. I know it is possible for that contentment to come back with a change of attitude. ACOA was such an eye opener to me and I need to be reminded of the principles over and over again.
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Post by SunnyGirl on Sept 21, 2012 14:41:35 GMT -5
well said godsgem....
I could picture that snowball and how tiny they are
starting out but as they continue to roll they just get
bigger and bigger. I've had a few in my life and I
certainly could relate... today I just need to remember
that change can be difficult to accept, but it always
seems to work out better when I do it sooner as opposed
to later. One of my favorite sayings: Nothing changes
if nothing changes.
I'm guessing many would think I live a boring life,
but it's my life and I prefer to keep it simple and
quiet. My only excitement is watching the chaos
in the lives of my loved ones... and it's not a pretty
sight!
Have a fantastic Friday and hope to see you Sunday!
Peace one the journey, SG
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 2, 2014 0:50:55 GMT -5
This brought a smile to my face tonight. To my son, he figures mom doesn't have a life so it doesn't matter. She doesn't do anything any way, so it doesn't matter if he imposes or stops by or wants something. I had this big revelation the other day, or should I say, I woke up AGAIN!!! It doesn't matter what I do, it is my life. BE IT DULL, BORING, OR EXCITING. It is still my life. I could spice it up a little bit if I had the energy or the inclination, which hasn't happened and I hesitate to mention it in case it should come to mind.  |
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.