Missing ESH in Naranon section~!

[dg]

Good Day everyone,
I MISS THIS NARANON SECTION BEING POSTED !!
I know I am also to blame for not taking up the slack here in this section not posting my ESH.
Sometimes my life seems so full that I barely have the time to sit and write out something I feel that is worth sharing to the world.
I miss people that used to post here in the Naranon section and to keep it going like we have been so good at doing.
Altho I also relize that some have moved on to better things and that too is missed alot.
I have wanted to take up meetings again on Thursdays, but with my commitment factor in that is not good, I do know that to keep up with our program is staying withthin the program by meetings and sharing.
Right?
OK, I will share with you my thought today****
My life with my addict today is pretty much in the same mode because he is still doing his time.
Yet, with his communication with me, he is excited to move on with his program and continue to do NA meetings when he gets out. That is something he has NEVER said before. ( usually denies he needs NA or anything pertaining recovery) I have those moments when I am excited for him, for us. Yet that fear of the unkown looms over me, and how bad I want it to be "the last time" of the choas of his addiction.
I know its not up to me to choose his path. Yet I feel that I am in his path by his choice when he gets out.
I know now that all I can do is wait and see, take it as it comes.
Life with an Addict is usually a ODAT thing, and that is something I am just now getting after 4 years of his chaos.
Thanks for letting me share.
Hope that one day this section will be busy once again.
Take care, have a good day.

[learning]

What is ESH?

Learning

[lildee]

Hi Learning,

Esh is part of the recovery lingo .... It means Experience , Strength, and Hope.

Keep those questions coming. That is the only way we learn.

Love ya
Arlene

[Lin]

I agree DG,..missing the ESH on much of the baords also. I'm not sure wht the problem is. We ahve guests reading nearly every time I come. I wish they'd post a question, vent, reply...SOMETHING.


glad to hear you are taking life ODAT....that's the healthiest for all concerned. But like you said,,it does not come overnight.

LIN

[mrsspanish]

i also agree.... miss all the posts too.....
i am not living with the A anymore... my only contact with him is that we share 4 children only one of whom sees him because the court demands of it... and i see him in courrt when i have to.... but.... i find myself falling for men who are verbally and emotionally abusive to me and i dont get the message!!!!.....on eman i know was also emotionally abusive and he left me for someone else and i know this intellectually but i cant seem to get over him..... am i addictied to love men like this??

[ChrisK]

You got to get to loving yourself. We love you in here. There isn't anything we don't want more then to help each other in here. If, I ask for help, people tell me what I need to hear. Might not always like what I hear but, i think, we leave the BS outside the rooms. It's too hard to BS people in here. Everyone has been there, seen that, heard that etc.
My son is going through the same thing. He got home from being out to sea for 6 months his wife wants a divorce. We have to have trust and respect in a realtionship. I can't get him to understand this

[dg]

Hi Doris,
this program is suppose to help us learn about ourselves in a way that we never really looked at before. Like us wearing rose color glasses, and when you take it off its no longer rosy.
Altho you may not be living with the addict anymore, your years of being with one, still triggers some old habits that you have and taking those new baby steps at changing you will help your understanding in the long run about yourself.
ODAT doris.

[mrsspanish]

thanks dg... that is one thing i learned in the last 2 years here at EOR.. ODAAT.... i never was able to do that before.. i always worried about tomorrow, next week, next monthand all the what ifs??? now most of the time i dont....