Trust

[DJgrrl]

Not finding a lot in any trusting women in th program. One woman i called gave my number and her phone to someone else to call on her *behalf* Very wierd and dysfunctional !!

[SunnyGirl]

Hi DJgrrl

I've never experienced anything like this in my recovery DJ....
Years ago I found a recipe that has worked for me:

Words that have been said or actions that have been done, shake
it off and step up. Let it go. Whatever it is, a rude comment, a past
mistake, being ignored, we can stew over it all week. It occupies
us all the time..... Laugh it off or Let it go.... how important is it?

Peace on the journey, SG

[caressa]

Thank you both for sharing. My spiritual advisor told me that just because someone was in the rooms didn't mean that they could be trusted. I had to remember they had a disease, the same disease that I had. I was told to trust the program. Each person had to find their own truth and find what worked for them. Just because something worked for someone else and was their truth, didn't mean it had to be my truth.

It if because I was at dis-ease within myself, that I looked for answers outside of myself. As my co-sponsor said, "Go within, you have the answers within you."


Anything that affects my sobriety is important, but it is how I react to it, that makes the difference. As you say SG, let it go, and if need be detach or set boundaries, do whatever you need for your own soundness of mind. It isn't about them, it is about me and my truth and has the slogan says, "Let It Begin With Me." No matter what fellowship you belong to, the Steps and the Principles apply to all areas of our life.

My sponsor told me to examine MY motives and intentions, clean my side of the street and make right with my God.

[BW]

Hi DJ

Our book uses the word "discretion" and it says "Trust God" ...No where does it say Trust everyone

When I place my trust in God and listen to my heart...God leads me to those in whom I can place my trust. It has been my expereince..and i have learned...the hard way that not everyone in the rooms can be trusted...it is a very sad fact...however--- I do know that God has never let me down
Please...try not to hang onto that resentment...learn from it and let it go
Prayers and hugs out to you

[caressa]

Good advice BW. I generally trust people until they break it and then I remember how I did the same thing in my own disease. It is not easy to get it back once it has been broken. We can't judge all people by the actions of one.

[DJgrrl]

Hi everyone,

Thanks for the sharing and ideas. I *love* what Caressa said. It is like God spoke to me. I hold no resentment against taht person. I did see one person who I asked for their phone number they gave it to me I called but they never claled me back. I am doign the do work and that is the best I can do !!

[majestyjo]

That is all we can do, try the best we can each day. Some times we fall short of our goals, but that is okay our God loves us for who we are, not about who we could be.