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Post by Lin on Mar 13, 2013 17:08:10 GMT -5
I was jsut reading the list of ACOA characteristics and I saw a part of myself that has reared its ugly head lately. I have been over-reacting to things over wich I have no control. At the bank, At a drive in fast food rstaurant, and picking up a friend at the hospital. I flipped out. I keep trying to figure what to cal what happened and I think this is it.
I spoke to a long time alanon friend...has over 30 yars alanon. She said I need to jsut give it ove to God when I catch myself starting to feel tis way. Sounds like a good idea to me. I know I often try to "not sweat the small stuff". But in these cases I felt I was being walked over....not respected. Like somebody was making a doormat of me. And that flew all over me.
I honestly think the fact I recognize it and know I have been over-reacting...that is the first step in changing my behavior.
Do any of you catch yourself over=reacting? If so, how do you change it?
LIN
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Post by SunnyGirl on Mar 13, 2013 23:12:20 GMT -5
Thank you for sharing Lin....
I am guilty of over-reacting at times, that's for sure.....
Driving in traffic used to really, really make me lose it!
But then, I inadvertently cut some one off myself and
they flipped me off and yelled obscenities at me! The
person looked and sounded nuts and it made me think
about my reactions and they were not pleasant at all.
Now, I think I am beginning to have a little more patience
with others and like you said, just recognizing it is half
the battle.... I try to cut myself some slack, none of us
are perfect, all we can do is acknowledge it and try to
do better. Not sure if this is 100% but the saying....
If you spot it, you've got it! ODAT
Peace on the journey my friend, SG
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Post by BW on Mar 14, 2013 15:22:47 GMT -5
I am getting a wee bit gooder at using the pause button
The promises says "sometimes slowly sometimes quickly..." and I am the first to admit I am a slow learrner which is not always a bad thing
What I get to realize is that the over reaction is anger which is really fear wearing a mask.
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Post by Lin on Mar 15, 2013 15:30:17 GMT -5
Thanks for the replies! Just what I needed to hear!
LIN
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Post by Cherie on Mar 21, 2013 17:33:48 GMT -5
Lin and BW....
Excellenrt thoughts from the both of you and this
is one of those defects that I really have to keep
an eye on. Couldn't begin to tell you how much
happier my life would be if I'd only hit the pause
button before speaking.... Hugs, SG
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Post by Lin on Mar 21, 2013 18:55:50 GMT -5
Hitting the pause button is a great reminder1 thanks BW!
LIN
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Post by BW on Mar 22, 2013 10:15:23 GMT -5
had another thunk about this after home group last night and wanted to share this with you from my own expereince and reflections
Sometimes we spin our wheels with trying to figure out and anylyze all the "WHY"S" or at least I do and I am not sure the "WHY's" are really alll that important...Me thinnks the important thing is recognizing , accepting and then getting into the "HOW" which is the solution which is what our journey of recovery is all about 'cuz the HOW is the Honesty Openmindedness and Willingness and all that those things entail
And of course that is just my own humble suggestions and expereince
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Post by SunnyGirl on Mar 22, 2013 14:21:35 GMT -5
I just love "humble suggestions"....
When we spot a defect of character, we need to
get to work on it.... God is always a willing listener
and will work with me to make changes. The key
is, I need to recognize it and follow it with action!
Just love it when you make me think!
Hugs, SG
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Post by Lin on Jun 4, 2013 13:54:06 GMT -5
BW.. when I try to figure the WHYS things happen as they do I am forgetting WHO is really in charge. It just leads to frustration. Accepting this is how it is and not trying to guess WHY really makes my life simpler!
LIN
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.