Letting Go

[caressa]

When I came into recovery, I didn't have a clue what letting go meant. Some days, many years of one day at a time, I still don't 'do' Letting Go very well.

I didn't have a concept of letting go. I didn't know how to do it and it took going to many, many meetings and listening to others that it just seemed to happen and the light bulb went on.

I was indeed, totally in the dark about this. It was my job to worry, fret, grit my teeth, etc. I have this problem you know, not knowing the problem was me.

[bobbie]

Hi,

I'm new here, so I'll just jump in and put my 2 cents in. I know letting go is hard. Even when I THINK I'm letting go, I'm really not. Sometimes I feel like I should just lock myself up so I don't keep interfering with others lives.

I've been in both Al-Anon and Nar-Anon for many years, and I DO feel better about myself, and I DO find it easier to say NO, but this habit I have of interfering just gets the better of me so many times.

Each day I wake up asking the Lord to help me get out of the way!

Love,
Bobbie

[dg]

Hi Bobbie, welcome to EOR,
Letting go was indeed a hard task to tackle especially when you want to try to be in control of all situations unbeknown to us, we can't really be in control for our paths are pretty much written in stone. Altho, we can try to learn to ACCEPT the things we can't change and let go and let HP take over....
I am in a situation where my health is really on the kerpunk and I am in lots of pain, can't move and drive, stuck here and my ailing mom turned worse and in the hospital and I want to be there tending for her like a daughter should... but... all I can do is be thankful that a phone call is between us for today as I know that her time is near and it will be no more.
hav e agood day.

[caressa]

Thank you for sharing. Welcome to the site Bobbie. I have just moved and haven't had a lot of time on the computer. I just got my TV operating yesterday. I filled in for another volunteer today and starting next week, I will be working Monday and Thursday afternoons.

It has always helped to direct my thinking on something positive and helping others which in turn, helps me to not focus on me and my problems. There is always someone hurting more than me and I can put my problems in their true perspective. I had a sponsor who use to tell me not to call them problems. He said they are challenges. Challenges we overcome, problems we can tend to get stuck on.

[Lin]

I used to think letting go meant walking away from...ignoring. Its not that at all. It's just not allowing something to consume my mind. It's not letting a wory over a choice that is not mine to make. I now know it also means I can go one step further and give these worries to my HP.

LIN

[majestyjo]

Having a little chuckle, looking at my post and seeing that I was still clueless! ROFLMAO!

We can say I am letting go, but we think that is not enough. We say, "God, I give this to you," yet we don't believe, that is not enough, and we think there should be more.

Sometimes we go through the motion, but in truth we don't mean it, because we want to keep control. We don't doubt that God is capable, but we want to be in the know and can't bear the thought of not having a say in the outcome or a part in the decision.

Letting go, means letting go. Drop it already. Haven't you carried it long enough! What haven't you done, what haven't you tried? Do you remember Step Two? Doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results.

Step 3, "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him." We make that decision daily. He will lead, guide, direct, give you strength, courage, wisdom, and any other thing you need for that day to live clean and sober, no matter what substance you choose to use to put between you and Him.