Can anyone help me find a rehab for my son?

[fallchild]

My 37 year old son lives in New York City and is an addict. He uses many substances, but the last I heard about was crystal meth (he has also used crack, ecstacy, and other designer drugs--and more). I believe that he is getting close to hitting bottom. We have not spoken since the beginning of September. I've been learning about intervention and want to be ready with resources if he reaches the point where he is ready to go.

I am looking for a rehab facility that is residential, that will keep him for a minimum of 3-6 months, that will work with someone who has not worked for years and has no money or insurance. I am looking for a facility that will provide psychiatric counseling as well as drug rehab. I've heard about Daytop in NYC and will investigate that.

Does anyone know of any other possibilities? We are located in Philadelphia, and if possible, I'd like to find a facility that is within driving distance of our home.

Also, I once posted on this site and someone gave me the url for an internet tool that will locate, with maps, all the AA, NA, AlAnon, NarAnon and rehab facilities meeting various criteria you put into the search. I've lost the url since my computer crashed. Can anyone give me that web address?

Thanks very much.

[lildee]

Dear Fallchild,
Welcome to EOR. My husband is a crack addict also. I am glad that you are aware of his disease. But the ultimate choice for recovery will rest with your son. He must want the recovery deep in his heart. As for you might I suggest Al-Anon or Naranon. They will help you understand the disease of addiction and how to cope with it. Below are several links you may find useful: The first two links are for you, the next three are for your son.

www.al-anon-alateen.org/

www.naranon.com/home.html

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www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/

www.na.org/

www.ca-ny.org/

findtreatment.samhsa.gov/facilitylocatordoc.htm

As of this date my husband has been clean for 64 days . So there is Hope. Good luck in all your choices, feel free to e-mail me at anytime. God Bless Arlene

[fallchild]

Thanks, Arlene, for those links. The facility locator link is the one I was looking for. Thanks, too, for your suggestions.

I've been going to NarAnon off and on for a couple of years. I'm very aware that the choice for recovery is my son's alone. But IF he makes that choice, I've told him I will help him find the facility or program he will need. So I want to be prepared with that advice, should the time arrive when he asks for it or is ready to go.

I'm glad your husband is hanging in there. One day at a time. My your holidays be a truly blessed time.

[rosepedilgirl]

hi iam mary jo addict''

i was also using crack cocaine myself..

yes your son will have to be the one who makes the choice..

but iam so glad to hear your voice;;

he is not died yet,,, what i mean is when he is reaching and you are there,, it means alot...

i needed family and support to help me get throw my addiction..

i hear the term tough love, i understand it well...

but the whole truth is we need to know. when we are seeking help that our family is where......


the best thing my mother did was tell me if and when i was ready to get control she'd be by my side....

thank you for realizing, he will need your love,,,,

not to help him in anyway use,,, but to lead him in rehab, and listen....


once an addict hit his/her bottom, a family member can easily help... and as an addict i valued my mother for being there...


so contact him if you can, reach and ask him if he is ready to get control,,, and if he answers yes..

tell him to contact na in his area,,, they will get him to rehab ,,,,, even a local hospital will lead him to rehab,,,

its only a phone call and in know time ,they will get him into rehab...

remember he is not died yet;;; when he wants help ,, its
is here for him... tell him to find the door way to na,, bring the body in and listen,,, and in know time his mind will follow......

believe in him,, it was not him out of control...
it was his addiction,,,,,

and if he is honest with himself and seeks help ,, he will find what he is looking for.....

if you can get him to go to just one meeting and ask him to sit an listen,,,,,

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if not for himself for you.....

[fallchild]

Hi Mary Jo,

Thanks for your response. My son will likely not ask me to help him, but it is my prayer that he will if he is ready to try to recover. At the moment, my only choice is to pray for him and to visualize him healthy and whole.

Fallchild

[rosepedilgirl]

amen,

and be ready if he is ready, he will need your love..

addiction takes them away, recovery brings them back..

our prayers are with him that he gets the help he needs.

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GODgave him two boxes;
a black and a gold one.

the black he was to put his sorrows in.
the gold was for the good he wanted to keep.

everyday he headed what GOD said.

and he noticed,
the gold boxes was heavy ,
but the black box was light,

so he opened the black box,
and he seen a hole in the bottom

so he went and asked GOD,

GOD, where is a whole in the black box,

GOD, said son i know
i have taken the sorrow away for you

so that you can count the blessings

in your gold box.....

show him to count his

blessings and he'll find recovery..

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