Post by Caressa2 on May 11, 2004 13:26:48 GMT -5
A lot of our chief aand major difficulties come from our inexperience with living without drugs. Often when we ask an oldtimer what to do, we ae amazed at the simplicity of the answer."
Basic Text, pp 41-42
Finding balance in recovery is quite a bit like sitting down with a set of scales and a pile of sand. The goal is to have an equal amount of sand on each side of the scales, achieving a balance of weight.
We do the same thing in recovery. We sit down with the foundatin of our clean time and the Twelve Steps, then attempt to add employment, household responsibilities, friends, sponsee, relationships, meetings, and service in equal weights so that the scales balance. Our first try may thow our personal scales out of kilter. We may find that, because of our over-involvement in service, we have upset our employer or our family. But when we try to correct this problem by resigning from NA service altogether, the other sidie of the scales go out of balance.
We can ask for help from members who have stabilized their scales. these people are easy to recognize. They appear serene, composed, and self-assured. They'll smile in recognition at our dilemma and share how they slowed down, added only a few grains of sand at a time to either side of the scales, and were rewarded with balance in recovery.
Just for today: I seek balance in my life. Today, I will ask others to share their experience in finding that balance.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY:
This has never been easy for me. Since I came into the rooms of recovery, I have always had a thirst for more. I had a fear of going back to where I came from, and so I kept going to meetings, to learn and find out a new way of living and changing so I didn't have to go there either in action or thought.
They say if you aren't in a relationship, then involve yourself with service. This I did for seven years, but it has taken the last five years to find a sense of balance because in the beginning, recovery and service always came before the man. Even in today, if someone is hurting and wants "honest" help and is willing to do the work to get better, then I will give them that attention, and my partner understands this and the same concept applies to me when his sponsees need him. What I have learned is that there is no good in putting out energy for someone who does not want to get better or heal.
People would say, "What do you do for fun?" For me recovery has been fun! I do have outside interests, I have my bridge, family and friends although the last two have often gotten a smaller piece of the pie. My dear departed aunt gave me a spiritual awakening on that part of balance. She said to me several years ago, "I guess I need to become one of your sponsees if I want to see more of you!"
Basic Text, pp 41-42
Finding balance in recovery is quite a bit like sitting down with a set of scales and a pile of sand. The goal is to have an equal amount of sand on each side of the scales, achieving a balance of weight.
We do the same thing in recovery. We sit down with the foundatin of our clean time and the Twelve Steps, then attempt to add employment, household responsibilities, friends, sponsee, relationships, meetings, and service in equal weights so that the scales balance. Our first try may thow our personal scales out of kilter. We may find that, because of our over-involvement in service, we have upset our employer or our family. But when we try to correct this problem by resigning from NA service altogether, the other sidie of the scales go out of balance.
We can ask for help from members who have stabilized their scales. these people are easy to recognize. They appear serene, composed, and self-assured. They'll smile in recognition at our dilemma and share how they slowed down, added only a few grains of sand at a time to either side of the scales, and were rewarded with balance in recovery.
Just for today: I seek balance in my life. Today, I will ask others to share their experience in finding that balance.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY:
This has never been easy for me. Since I came into the rooms of recovery, I have always had a thirst for more. I had a fear of going back to where I came from, and so I kept going to meetings, to learn and find out a new way of living and changing so I didn't have to go there either in action or thought.
They say if you aren't in a relationship, then involve yourself with service. This I did for seven years, but it has taken the last five years to find a sense of balance because in the beginning, recovery and service always came before the man. Even in today, if someone is hurting and wants "honest" help and is willing to do the work to get better, then I will give them that attention, and my partner understands this and the same concept applies to me when his sponsees need him. What I have learned is that there is no good in putting out energy for someone who does not want to get better or heal.
People would say, "What do you do for fun?" For me recovery has been fun! I do have outside interests, I have my bridge, family and friends although the last two have often gotten a smaller piece of the pie. My dear departed aunt gave me a spiritual awakening on that part of balance. She said to me several years ago, "I guess I need to become one of your sponsees if I want to see more of you!"
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.