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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 11, 2014 15:59:47 GMT -5
This weeks topic: Live and Let Live (All are welcome to join in the discussion)
I spent so many years worrying about my addicted loved one that learning to live
my own life was rather difficult. I chose this topic because my younger son accused
me of trying to manipulate him. (If I was I wasn't aware of it)
My hubby brought home "holy water" from church last Sunday and sprinkled a
few drops on my head and also on our Beau dog. I thought nothing of it, in fact
I thought it was kind of sweet of him.... Yesterday our son brought his laundry
over and was going to stay for supper. I very casually took the "holy water" and
put a few drops on his head..... it startled him and he snapped, what is that??? I
told him what it was and he was soooooooooo angry! He felt like I did it thinking
he was a horrible person and a sinner and he was working his way into a major
fit. I told him those thoughts might be coming in his own head but I did it with
none of those thoughts in my own. I work hard to keep my thoughts about his
lifestyle to myself and not judge him, he's been kind to both of us but this
rant really hurt me. I give him space and don't get judgmental, so I will let him
burn out on the topic and trust me, I will never use the "holy water" on him except
on his request. 
Today I'm working hard to make my life a happy place and I getting out into the
world again instead of isolating. I'm working at making sure I'm in a good place,
learning, listening and having faith the no matter what happens in my life, God
will get me through it.
Please share your thoughts....
Peace on the journey, SG |
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Post by SunnyGirl on Jan 13, 2014 15:49:40 GMT -5
"Live and Let Live" means I need tolerance for people who think differently than I do.
It means I don't get to impose my will on others who think and act in ways I don't
approve of. Who am I to judge others or rate their thoughts and actions. I don't have
all the answers, I am no better than others. I live my life in the best way I know how
and I will allow others to do the same.
Just for today, I will not allow intolerance or criticism into my life.
Peace on the journey, SG
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Post by BW on Jan 15, 2014 0:04:41 GMT -5
Great topic...Thank You SG
Learning how to Live and let live especially with loved ones is sometimes hard and sometimes seem like a very delicate and oft times fragile balancing act. I do try to love unconditionally yet I do not want to see them hurt or suffer. I try not to judge or criticize and make every attempt to accept them for where they are in life yet when they ask.."What do you think? or What is your opinion or your thoughts?" the question then is how much honesty to put out there.
Live and let live does embody many of the other principles; honesty, tolerance, love, acceptance, and so on. The deal breaker for me is I can accept and love the person. I do not have to tolerate nor accept the violent abusive behaviors.
In regards to belief systems, values, or opinions each person has a right to their own. I do not have to force mine on anyone else. I can agree to disagree with love and respect. The same is also true the other way round. I need not have to tolerate anyone forcing their beliefs or opinions on me. I do get a bit frazzled when a person chases me down to insist on me agreeing with them. Respect is a 2 way street. Don't make me chase you out of my hula hoop --it may not be a pretty site...LOL
A number of years ago I tried an experiment in communication. I tried just plain talking with people--many got ticked and upset
then I tried making suggestions--same result
I asked questions--same result--
I used humor-same result
My conclusion is that no matter how I approach some people they will take it the way they will take it. If I came from a loving gentle place, and my motives are clear...how they take it is then their issue, their problem. If my motives are in fact clear and I know in my heart of hearts that I have said what I needed to say and it came from a loving gentle place then when I lay my head on the pillow at night I can rest assured that I am right with God and that is all that truly matters..
People pleasing, walking on egg shells, protecting egos or whatever is not my role or purpose in life today. My purpose is to carry the message of hope responsibly and to learn and grow spiritually and sometimes that means just to BE the example...not necessarily shout it from the roof tops 'cuz talk is cheap...but seeing is believing.
Now I feel like the train might be going slightly off track so I will flutter on.
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Post by Lin on Jan 15, 2014 8:16:59 GMT -5
Learning to live and let live is a great reminder to me to stay on my own side of the street. What others do is not my concern. I am not a watchdog. I can't make a person behave like I think they should. So letting it go and taking car of my own issues and my own life keeps my life a lot simpler. Sometimes we have to step out of the way and allow others to make their own mistakes . Sometimes it seems easier to jsut do things for others and clean up their messes. But how will they ever learn if they don't stumble once in a while.
I see it like throwing a mattress down we see somebody about to fall so they can have a safe landing. But the more I did that the worse things became.
to day I will live my own life and let others live theirs.
LIN
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Post by caressa222 on Oct 8, 2019 4:18:52 GMT -5
One of my favorite slogan, once I learned how to work it.
Live my Life. Focus on my own recovery. Deal with my emotions. For every finger I point at someone, I have 3 coming back at me. Doing an inventory can be tiring emotions are tiring, and when not dealt with, become even heavier to carry around.
Then you come to part two. Let OP (OTHER PEOPLE) live their life. Let them live with the consequences of their choices.
What does this slogan mean. I was told to mind my own business. It means so much more, that is why we work this program one day at a time.
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. I will be back looking for Lin and others.