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Post by majestyjo on Feb 23, 2015 14:54:39 GMT -5
Emotional awareness is the first step in learning how to receive the nourishment the Universe provides for you. - Gary Zukav This is a good reminder that my disease if four-fold. I need to heal the emotions behind the physical, mental and spiritual malady of my disease. The scars on our body are very superficial and are only an indicator of the trauma which lies beneath. A long-timer (twenty-five years sobriety at the time) once shared at a meeting when I was new in recovery that he had to come to meeting in today to work on his emotional sobriety and figured he would have to continue doing so for the rest of his life. This statement kept a young whipper snapper of two years clean and sober coming back to meetings. I can still remember the feeling of awe and wonder at the enlightenment I received that day. I am reminded, just because I have a feeling doesn't mean I have to act on it. That is what I did wrong for most of my life. Attachments:
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Post by majestyjo on Feb 23, 2015 15:20:10 GMT -5
The Doctors Opinion is the only opinion in the basic text of the BB. In it, he says this, "Frothy emotional appeal seldom suffices. The message which can interest and hold these alcoholic people must have depth and weight." The idea that those new to AA must be shielded from the truth of the recovery message is not shared by Silkworth. For any who are new, be aware that the truth - brutal though it may seem - is only where you will find the "depth and weight" needed for recovery. Alcoholism is a deadly disease which surely kills the alcoholic without effective treatment. My understanding and sympathy will not get you well. Attachments:
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Post by majestyjo on Feb 23, 2015 15:41:52 GMT -5
The Explicit "Musts" Found In Alcoholics Anonymous 3rd. Edition
[ PLEASE NOTE: These are intended for further study and should not be
taken out of context; e.g. #45-51,78,79 etc. ]
THE DOCTOR'S OPINION
1) page xxiii:
As part of his rehabilitation he commenced to present his conceptions to other
alcoholics, impressing on them that they must do likewise with still others.
2) page xxiv:
In this statement he confirms what we who have suffered alcoholic torture must
believe -- that the body of the alcoholic is quite as abnormal as his mind.
3) page xxvi:
The message which can interest and hold these alcoholic people must have depth
and weight.
4) page xxvi:
In nearly all cases, their ideals must be grounded in a power greater then
themselves, if they are to re-create their lives.
5) page xxvii:
I must stop, but I cannot!
6) page xxvii:
You must help me!
7) page xxvii:
Faced with this problem, if a doctor is honest with himself, he must sometimes
feel his own inadequacy.
8) page xxvii:
Though the aggregate of recoveries resulting from psychiatric effort is
considerable, we physicians must admit we have made little impression upon the
problem as a whole.
CHAPTER 1 BILL'S STORY
9) page 10:
I could almost hear the sound of the preacher's voice as I sat,
on still Sundays, way over there on the hillside; there was that proffered
temperance pledge I never signed; my grandfather's good natured contempt
of some church folk and their doings; his insistence that the spheres really
had their own music; but his denial of the preacher's right to tell him how he
must listen; his fearlessness as he spoke of these things just before he died;
these recollections welled up from the past.
10) page 14:
I must turn in all things to the Father of Light who presides over us all.
CHAPTER 2 THERE IS A SOLUTION
11) page 20:
"His will power must be weak."
12) page 29:
Our hope is that many alcoholic men and women, desperately in need will see
these pages, and we believe that it is only by fully disclosing ourselves and
our problems that they will be persuaded to say, "Yes I am one of them too;
I must have this thing."
CHAPTER 3 MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM
13) page 33:
If we are planning to stop drinking, there must be no reservation of any kind,
nor any lurking notion that someday we will be immune to alcohol.
14) page 43:
His defense must come from a Higher Power.
CHAPTER 4 WE AGNOSTICS
15) page 44:
But after a while we had to face the fact that we must find a spiritual basis
of life -- or else.
CHAPTER 5 HOW IT WORKS
16) page 62:
Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness.
17) page 62:
We must, or it kills us!
18) page 66:
We saw that these resentments must be mastered, but how?
19) page 69:
Whatever our ideal turns out to be, we must be willing to grow toward it.
20) page 69:
We must be willing to make amends where we have done harm, provided that we do
not bring about still more harm in so doing.
CHAPTER 6 INTO ACTION
21) page 73:
We must be entirely honest with somebody if we expect to live long or happily
in this world.
22) page 74:
Those of us who belong to a religious denomination which requires confession
must, and of course, will want to go to the properly appointed authority whose duty is to receive it.
23) page 74:
The rule is we must be hard on ourself, but always considerate of others.
24) page 75:
But we must not use this as a mere excuse to postpone.
25) page 78:
We must lose our fear of creditors no matter how far we have to go, for we are
liable to drink if we are afraid to face them.
26) page 79:
We must not shrink at anything.
27) page 80:
If we obtained permission, have consulted with others, asked God to help and
the drastic step is indicated we must not shrink.
28) page 81:
In fairness we must say that she may understand, but what are we going to do
about a thing like that?
29) page 82:
Certainly he must keep sober, for there will be no home if he doesn't.
30) page 83:
We must take the lead.
31) page 83:
We must remember that ten or twenty years of drunkenness would make a skeptic
out of anyone.
32) page 85:
Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of God's will into all of our
activities.
33) page 85:
These are the thoughts which must go with us constantly.
34) page 85:
But we must go further and that means more action.
35) page 86:
But we must be careful not to drift into worry, remorse or morbid reflection,
for that would diminish our usefulness to others.
CHAPTER 7 WORKING WITH OTHERS
36) page 89:
To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish,
to see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host of friends -- this is an
experience you must not miss.
37) page 90:
The family must decide these things.
38) page 93:
To be vital, faith must be accompanied by self sacrifice and unselfish,
constructive action.
39) page 95:
After doing that, he must decide for himself whether he wants to go on.
40) page 95:
If he is to find God, the desire must come from within him.
41) page 99:
In many homes this is a difficult thing to do, but it must be done if any
results are to be expected.
42) page 99:
But we must try to repair the damage immediately lest we pay the penalty by a
spree.
43) page 99:
If their old relationship is to be resumed it must be on a better basis, since
the former did not work.
44) page 100:
Both you and the new man must walk day by day in the path of spiritual progress.
45) page 100:
People have said we must not go where liquor is served; [continued]
46) page 101:
we must not have it in our homes; [continued]
47) page 101:
we must shun our friends who drink; [continued]
48) page 101:
we must avoid moving pictures which show drinking scenes; [continued]
49) page 101:
we must not go into bars; [continued]
50) page 101:
our friends must hide their bottles if we go to their houses;[continued]
51) page 101:
we mustn't think or be reminded about alcohol at all.
CHAPTER 8 TO WIVES
52) page 111:
Our next thought is that you should never tell him what he must do about his
drinking.
53) page 113:
Wait until repeated stumbling convinces him he must act, for the more you hurry
him the longer his recovery will be delayed.
54) page 114:
But sometimes you must start life anew.
55) page 115:
But you must be on guard not to embarrass of harm your husband.
56) page 115:
You will no longer be self-conscious or feel that you must apologize as though
your husband were a weak character.
57) page 117:
Often you must carry the burden of avoiding them or keeping them under control.
58) page 118:
Yet you must expect too much.
59) page 120:
Your husband will see at once that he must redouble his spiritual activities
if he expects to survive.
CHAPTER 9 THE FAMILY AFTERWARD
60) page 127:
The family must realize that dad, though marvelously improved, is still
convalescing.
61) page 127:
But he must see the danger of over-concentration on financial success.
62) page 127:
We know there are difficult wives and families, but the man who is getting over
alcoholism must remember he did much to make them so.
63) page 130:
That is where our fellow travelers are, and that is where our work must be done.
64) page 135:
The others must be convinced of his new status beyond the shadow of a doubt.
CHAPTER 10 TO EMPLOYERS
65) page 141:
State that you know about his drinking, and that it must stop.
66) page 143:
Though you are providing him with the best possible medical attention, he
should understand that he must undergo a change of heart.
67) page 144:
When a man is presented with this volume it is best that no one tell him he
must abide by its suggestions.
68) page 144:
The man must decide for himself.
69) page 146:
For he knows he must be honest if he would live at all.
CHAPTER 11 A VISION FOR YOU
70) page 152:
"...I know I must get along without liquor, but how can I?..."
71) page 153:
They will approach still other sick ones and fellowships of Alcoholics
Anonymous may spring up in each city and hamlet, havens for those who must
find a way out.
72) page 154:
There must be many such in this town.
73) page 156:
Both saw that they must keep spiritually active.
74) page 159:
Though they knew they must help other alcoholics if they would remain sober,
that motive became secondary.
75) page 164:
God will determine that, so you must remember that your real reliance is always
upon Him.
APPENDIX I.....THE A.A. TRADITION
76) page 563:
We alcoholics see that we must work together and hang together, else most of us
will finally die alone.
THE TWELVE TRADITIONS (LONG FORM)
77) page 565:
A.A. must continue to live or most of us will surely die.
APPENDIX II....SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE
78) page 569:
Yet it is true that our first printing gave many readers the impression that
these personality changes, or religious experiences, must be in the nature of
sudden and spectacular upheavals.
79) page 569:
Though it was not our intention to create such an impression, many alcoholics
have nevertheless concluded that in order to recover they must acquire an
immediate and overwhelming "God-consciousness" followed at once by a vast
change in feeling and outlook.
APPENDIX III...THE MEDICAL VIEW ON A.A.
80) page 571:
"...I think our profession must take appreciative cognizance of this great
therapeutic weapon.
81) page 571:
Any therapeutic or philosophic procedure which can prove a recovery rate of
50% to 60% must merit our consideration."
82) page 572:
They know that they must never drink.
__________________
Failed 12 Step Call?? Not if we walk away sober!
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Post by majestyjo on Feb 23, 2015 15:56:18 GMT -5
Embrace who you are. We are a sum of are parts, we are not one dimensional. How boring that would be. I don't have the extreme highs and lows that I had prior to recovery, my emotions have levelled out. /\/\/\/\/\/\ before, ~~~~~~~~~~ now, when I am dead I can have _________, that is too much calm for me.
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Post by majestyjo on Feb 23, 2015 16:27:25 GMT -5
Feel your emotions
"The key is to not resist or rebel against emotions or to try to get around them by devising all sorts of tricks; but to accept them directly, as they are."
-- Takahisa Kora
Emotions are energy in motion. They bring us information if we are willing to experience them. Unfortunately, many of us are afraid of the energy of emotions and so we automatically resist them. And when we refuse to experience our emotions, we block them up. They become trapped and that entrapment drains our energy and brings continuing discomfort.
Don't let emotions push you into action or reaction. Just STOP and PAY ATTENTION. Allow them to be and to speak to you. Once they are acknowledged, their energy is released.
"Instead of resisting any emotion, the best way to dispel it is to enter it fully, embrace it and see through your resistance."
-- Deepak Chopra
"We have to become more conscious of our feeling-world. By learning to identify the ‘emotional baggage’ and manage our feeling-world reactions, we can view life based on current information instead of being held captive by our past."
-- Doc Childre
"Our feelings are our most genuine paths to knowledge."
-- Audre Lorde
From Higher Awareness (used with permission) In recovery, I found that a lot of feelings in today were often compounded interest from things that happened a long time ago in my childhood. Often they were the result of FEAR - false evidence appear real, often based on a false sense of pride and responsibility and not mine to take on, and the feelings were more acute as a result of many years of stuffing. Buried resentments, abandonment issues, rejection and hurt feelings can lead to a lot of pain and insecurity. Emotional pain can make itself known physically. Physical pain ignored can be made itself mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Attachments:
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Post by majestyjo on Feb 23, 2015 16:48:09 GMT -5
Because you're not what I would have you be, I blind myself to who, in truth, you are.
—Madeleine L'Engle
It was the quote that drew me to the reading. I realized early in recovery that you can't project expectation, especially onto someone who is not mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually capable of meeting them. I would put such high expectations in some areas of my life and expect others to live up to my standards. Even when I lowered them, to some people they seemed unattainable. If I didn't live up to them myself, it was just another reason to beat myself up. As it says in the Big Book: The higher my acceptance and the lower my expectations, I never had it so good. Attachments:
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Post by majestyjo on Feb 23, 2015 16:52:26 GMT -5
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Post by caressa222 on Aug 27, 2017 15:17:26 GMT -5
Because of Fibromyalgia, don't always have energy. I look at some people, especially children, and think, where do they get their energy? What a silly question. The same place you get yours when you think of asking for it.
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Post by Lin on Aug 27, 2017 16:52:27 GMT -5
The E I thought of first is EASY DOES IT...I try to take it easy with my mouth and my actions. Try not to be too hard on myself or on others.
LIN
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Post by majestyjo on Aug 28, 2017 16:36:36 GMT -5
Don't work that slogan well, either I get too busy and forget the easy, or I am too easy and forget to do it! It brings to mind sayings from my Mother. "Rome wasn't built in a day." Fingers were made before forks." She would say, "Yours weren't." I guess that is what mother's are for. To bring us up short when it looks like we are going to fall. Thanks for sharing Lin.
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Post by majestyjo on Oct 19, 2017 22:57:20 GMT -5
One More Day
October 19
There must be something strangely sacred in salt. It is in our tears and in the sea. – Kahlil Gibran
Emotion plays around a person’s face, making it strained or relaxed. We say we can “read” someone else’s face. Few of us burst into spontaneous tears or laughter, but instead first show slight emotion on our faces or in the way we speak.
Laughter is instrumental to our well-being, but tears are also essential to our emotional survival. When we finally release the emotions we feel and the dams break loose, the tears are healing. They allow us to cleanse ourselves of pent-up angers, fears, and frustrations.
I know crying is a human characteristic. I will not be ashamed of my need to cry, for tears are part of my human experience.
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 3, 2017 23:40:59 GMT -5
E is for Evidence. My aunt at a plaque that said, "By the stack of evidence (meaning dirty dishes) God is very good to us. Sometimes there is evidence that we are not working our program very well, and by my attitude, I show that I need to go to a meeting. What evidence do you see? Perhaps a little anger, shortness of temper, lack of patience and tolerance, all things we need to turn over to our Higher Power.
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Post by majestyjo on Jan 9, 2018 23:15:33 GMT -5
E is for Eclectic. I was told you should never use a word that you can't spell. I was pleased that no red line showed up under the word, but I do have to admit to having to look up the correct meaning. I thought I knew what it was, so I wanted to see if I was right. It was more right than I thought it was. I was grasping at straws trying to come up with a new word. It fit better than I thought it would. www.bing.com/search?form=SECOBX&pc=SAFE&q=eclectic
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Post by majestyjo on Feb 28, 2018 12:44:43 GMT -5
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Post by caressa222 on Mar 19, 2018 1:59:04 GMT -5
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Post by caressa222 on Apr 7, 2018 0:02:29 GMT -5
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Post by caressa222 on Jun 6, 2018 18:16:30 GMT -5
We often take on what is not our or go into an energy that isn't good for us and it can suck the life right out of us. I was told that I needed to be aware of Energy Vampires. We need to be mindful of negative energies like depression, poor me, unloved and not worthy, etc.
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Post by majestyjo on Dec 29, 2018 15:20:57 GMT -5
E is for Easy Does It...But Do It. Do the net BEST think. Hesitate and meditate, just because you have a feeling, doesn't mean you have to act on it. Just because it feels comfortable and right in the moment, it could be an old tape and instead of acting in your best interest, you are acting out.
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Post by majestyjo on Aug 29, 2019 22:59:27 GMT -5
E is for Emotions. Those little things that like to run ramped. They really like us to pay attention to them. It is important to acknowledge them. If we stuff them with food and other substances they fester and grow. When we acknowledge them we take away their power and empower ourselves.
Many of our fears antd other emotions are rooted in our.pzst. so much of early recovery is grief work. Loss of what was and loss of what could have been. We need to stay in the moment in today and move onward to a new beginning
Each day is a new beginning, so have a great one.
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