Post by caressa on Sept 30, 2007 18:12:59 GMT -5
Time to change direction?
"Employ the power of positive quitting. Most of us view quitting as something negative, but it’s not. ‘Winners never quit,’ we’re told, when, in reality, winners quit all the time: choosing to stop doing things that aren’t creating the results they desire. When you quit all the things that aren’t working for you, when you quit tolerating all the negative things that hold you back, you’ll create a positive ‘charge’ in your life as well as create the space in your life for more positive experiences."
-- Jim Allen
"I like thinking of possibilities. At any time, an entirely new possibility is liable to come along and spin you off in an entirely new direction. The trick, I've learned, is to be awake to the moment."
-- Doug Hall
"Persons and societies do not submit passively to surroundings and events. They make choices as to the places where they live and the activities in which they engage -- choices based on what they want to be, to do and to become. Furthermore, persons and societies often change their goals and ways; they can even retrace their steps and start in a new direction if they believe they are on a wrong course. Thus, whereas animal life is prisoner of biological evolution which is essentially irreversible, human life has the wonderful freedom of social evolution which is rapidly reversible and creative. Wherever human beings are concerned, trend is not destiny."
-- Rene Dubos
This reminds me of that old pet peeve of mine. The saying, "I've been doing it for (?) years, it's stood me in good stead, I'm not about to change any time soon. Like get real, already. Even things I did in early recovery, don't hold up and work in today so why do I want to hold onto an old way of living from back when I was using.
If I am reborn of the Spirit, why would I want to act out in old patterns and behaviors? For me, Spirituality is change.
Personally, I don't want to be the old 'pregnant dog' that complained and nagged about everything. When I was shopping the other day, I developed a resentment against a staff member in Walmart. My knee gave out on me and I was in a lot of pain, so I cashed out and went to sit on the bench outside the entrance of the store. When I had rested a few minutes, I went to the woman on the door and asked her if I could have my friend paged. I figured she would be looking around the store for me. The woman said, "I don't know if I can find a clerk for you, we are busy." No kidding, the place was a zoo. I had heard other pages while I was in the store. She said, "You can't stand here your in the way. I wanted to let my friend know where I was at. She ended up checking out about five minutes later. It wasn't so much what she said but the tone of her voice and her attitude. It takes one to know one. I was thinking, "I just spent $150. plus in your store, you should be kissing my butt, not giving me a hard time." A wrong doesn't make it right. We went into the mall and I saw the woman three times in the next hour. That was made me realize, when I thought of it later, that I had to make my amends to God and to myself for my part. God keeps bringing me back to something until I learn the lesson.
I shared this on another site and decided to post it here. It is important to work the Step, but for me, it is more important to live them.
"Employ the power of positive quitting. Most of us view quitting as something negative, but it’s not. ‘Winners never quit,’ we’re told, when, in reality, winners quit all the time: choosing to stop doing things that aren’t creating the results they desire. When you quit all the things that aren’t working for you, when you quit tolerating all the negative things that hold you back, you’ll create a positive ‘charge’ in your life as well as create the space in your life for more positive experiences."
-- Jim Allen
"I like thinking of possibilities. At any time, an entirely new possibility is liable to come along and spin you off in an entirely new direction. The trick, I've learned, is to be awake to the moment."
-- Doug Hall
"Persons and societies do not submit passively to surroundings and events. They make choices as to the places where they live and the activities in which they engage -- choices based on what they want to be, to do and to become. Furthermore, persons and societies often change their goals and ways; they can even retrace their steps and start in a new direction if they believe they are on a wrong course. Thus, whereas animal life is prisoner of biological evolution which is essentially irreversible, human life has the wonderful freedom of social evolution which is rapidly reversible and creative. Wherever human beings are concerned, trend is not destiny."
-- Rene Dubos
This reminds me of that old pet peeve of mine. The saying, "I've been doing it for (?) years, it's stood me in good stead, I'm not about to change any time soon. Like get real, already. Even things I did in early recovery, don't hold up and work in today so why do I want to hold onto an old way of living from back when I was using.
If I am reborn of the Spirit, why would I want to act out in old patterns and behaviors? For me, Spirituality is change.
Personally, I don't want to be the old 'pregnant dog' that complained and nagged about everything. When I was shopping the other day, I developed a resentment against a staff member in Walmart. My knee gave out on me and I was in a lot of pain, so I cashed out and went to sit on the bench outside the entrance of the store. When I had rested a few minutes, I went to the woman on the door and asked her if I could have my friend paged. I figured she would be looking around the store for me. The woman said, "I don't know if I can find a clerk for you, we are busy." No kidding, the place was a zoo. I had heard other pages while I was in the store. She said, "You can't stand here your in the way. I wanted to let my friend know where I was at. She ended up checking out about five minutes later. It wasn't so much what she said but the tone of her voice and her attitude. It takes one to know one. I was thinking, "I just spent $150. plus in your store, you should be kissing my butt, not giving me a hard time." A wrong doesn't make it right. We went into the mall and I saw the woman three times in the next hour. That was made me realize, when I thought of it later, that I had to make my amends to God and to myself for my part. God keeps bringing me back to something until I learn the lesson.
I shared this on another site and decided to post it here. It is important to work the Step, but for me, it is more important to live them.
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.