Learn to say whatever

[caressa]

Learn to say whatever


"Do you have issues with drama addiction?" I asked my daughter one day, in a serious,interviewer kind of voice.
"Of course I do," she said. "I'm the original drama queen."
"Can I interview you about it?" I asked.
There was a long pause on the phone. "I've got a better suggestion," she said. "Why don't you interview yourself?"
I've been addicted to many things this lifetime-- alcohol, heroin, morphine, Dilaudid, cocaine, barbituates, Valium, and any other substance that physically and psychologically promised to change the way I feel. I've been addicted to caffeine, tobacco, and nicotine-- cigarettes, and Cuban cigars-- and opium and hashish, too. I've been caught up in other people's addictions to these substances as well. Some people might say I have an addictive personality. I don't know if I agree with the concept that we can become addicted to people, but if the folks that say you can are right, I've probably been addicted to certain of those, too.
But of all the addictions possible on this planet, I've found my addiction to drama absolutely the hardest to recognize, accept, deal with, and overcome. The rush of emotional energy I feel from drama at the theater, on television(small or big screen), in a book, and most preferably acted out in real life (mine) is the last legal, legitimate jones that society allows.
It's not politically correct to smoke, act out sexually, be a nonrecovering alcoholic, or shoot drugs. But despite all the evolution in consciouness that's unfolded and gotten us to this point, drama addiction is more than politically correct.
Drama addiction is in. Right now, for many people, it's one of the only things giving meaning to life.
Potential guests line up, volunteering to have their relationship and court battles-- things which once were guarded secrets-- braodcast on international cable and satellite TV. Our society can't wait to peek and snoop into our lives. Broadcasting real-life soap operas guarantees the ratings will soar.
In 1999, I wrote the above words in a chapter on drama addiction in my book called Playing It By Heart. But the concept of drama addiction, and transcending it, has been around for a long, long time.
In 1937, author Emmet Fox wrote an essay in Find and Use Your Inner Power. The essay's title was "Don't Be a Tragedy Queen."
"Self-pity, by making us feel sorry for ourselves, seems to provide an escape from responsibility, but it is a fatal drug nevertheless," he wrote. "It confuses the feelings, blinds the reason, and puts us at the mercy of outer conditions.... Don't be a tragedy queen-- whether you are a man or a woman, for it is not a question of gender but of mental outlook. Absolutely repudiate a crown of matyrdom. If you cannot laugh at yourself(which is the best medicine of all), at least try to handle the difficulty in an objective way, as though it concerned somebody else."
Maybe the antithesis to being a drama king or queen has been around even longer than that.
Three tiny Buddha statues sit before me on my writing desk. One is serene. One is smiling. One is sorrowful, doubled over in compassion for the world. All you can see it the top of his head.
"The Kingdom of Heaven is within you," Jesus said
"Nirvana is a state of conscousness," wrote Anne Bancrroft, in an introduction to the Dhammapada, a book containing the teachings of Buddha.
Enlightenment and paradise aren't places we visit. They're within our hearts and heads.
Say,"It's a nightmare," if you must. Even say,"Oh my God, I can't believe this is happening, much less happening to me." But whether you say the words with calmness and serenity, bursting with laughter or a mere giggle, or doubled over with compassion for the pain of the world, Learning to speak the language of letting go in the days, months, and years of the millenium ahead means learning to say whatever, too.


God, help me let go of my need to create drama to have a life.

- Language of Letting Go