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Post by majestyjo on Sept 29, 2016 19:56:46 GMT -5
Just for today, I will try to be more tolerant. I realize that I have been a little too judgmental about certain things. Mainly people who complain about the same thing over and over again, and do nothing about it. It may sound like I do that, but each day is a new pain, it doesn't always come in the same shape and format. It can be my heart, my diabetes, my arthritis, my spine, my neck, etc. LOL! I was talking to Tony at the Holistic Center today about how we go through a grieving process every time there is change in our life. I realized that I had forgotten about that and need to practice what I preach. Wasn't too tolerant of myself today. I told him I felt like a real ditz, not sure of the spelling. Things were not computing and not coming out in the way I wanted to say them. That is why I had him work on my neck as I had a pinched nerve.  |
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Post by bunnypie on Sept 29, 2016 20:23:52 GMT -5
Oh JO!!!---sorry to hear you have an actual pain in the neck!!! I use that sometimes as a figure of speech but an actual one is lousy!!! Hope Tony was able to make it feel better??? That is one of the worst pains to have!!! Hope & Pray you will be feeling better!-----Bunnypie  |
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Post by majestyjo on Sept 30, 2016 19:51:11 GMT -5
I have pain in my neck and I can be a pain in the neck if you ask my son and a few others.
He helped, but my hip gave out today and before I got home, the one on the other side was hurting. He didn't work on them, so will have to book another appointment.
I think the worst pain is a tooth ache. It is a real begger, when you get one and you have no teeth in your head. They call it phantom pain, but seems very real to me.
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Post by majestyjo on Sept 30, 2016 19:51:30 GMT -5
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Post by majestyjo on Sept 30, 2016 20:05:57 GMT -5
Just for today, I will pray for patience. I was waiting for the bus and it didn't come. A woman was wearing sandals and her feet were really cold. She waited 45 min. I was there about 30 min. and it didn't come. According to the schedule it was due 5 min. after I got to the stop. We finally got on another bus, got off a stop earlier and started to walk 4 blocks for each of us. Just as we got to the street, our bus came along and if we had waited about 5 min. longer, we could have caught it. She was just so cold, so we got on the bus so she could warm up a bit and I walked a block from her home. She went one way and I another, each having a block further to walk. I knew it was due, but I was worried about her. When we got off the bus, it was me the guys offered to help and asked her if I was alright. Go figure! LOL!  |
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Post by bunnypie on Sept 30, 2016 22:00:34 GMT -5
YES! a toothache and drive you to the brink of insanity! I think any thing in the head is miserable! Ear, teeth, eyes, sinus are all unbearable for me. I would rather have a body ache then anything in the head!!!! Public transportation sounds like it is "hurry up & wait" and real similar to the doctor/dentist office.....Bunnypie
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Post by majestyjo on Oct 1, 2016 11:39:13 GMT -5
Just for today, I will try to practice my patience and put into affect detaching from my alcoholic. At the moment, he would try the patience of Job. It is about everyone else, not about him and wondering why he is so hard done by. God is on top of the list, it didn't rain in the summer and his hours were cut and now it is raining now and he has been missing days. He works in landscaping, and it is difficult to work if the grass doesn't grow. No hours, no money to use. He still brings up my addiction from his past and likes to play the blame game. It is hard not to take some of it on, but I can't continue to pay for my mistakes, I can only move on, and I have been trying to do that, one day at a time for 25 years.  |
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Post by bunnypie on Oct 1, 2016 23:39:20 GMT -5
Hi Jo----there is a line from an old rock song that says "the way she's always paying for a debt she never owed" In Chicago area it is aka extortion. I have had to finally draw the line and say "I won't be embezzled or do extortion" It can be financially or emotionally. When I was hurting bad enough I put a stop to it. One of the hardest words in the English language is NO! I was told in early sobriety what do you have a problem with? The "N" or the "O"  It is easy to say but hard to do. It can be done!!!------Bunnypie |
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Post by majestyjo on Oct 2, 2016 1:01:45 GMT -5
Laurie Morgan had a country and western song that said, "What part of "No" do you not understand." It was always difficult and hard to say "NO" to him. When I did, the past was brought up and now it is, "You don't love me, you never did."
As they say, "It is a disease of perception." I know it, but he is just not willing to accept me or recovery in any way shape or form. It makes me sad, watching him kill himself.
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Post by bunnypie on Oct 2, 2016 4:21:13 GMT -5
Wow! that sounds so familiar!!! I would say the same thing to my Mom but she would come back with the line "I love you but I hate what you are doing to yourself" To separate the person from the action is a radical idea....It was for me anyway!!! Bunnypie |
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Post by majestyjo on Oct 2, 2016 11:14:57 GMT -5
Just for today, I will be strong and do what I need to do for myself. It is raining, so I can't run away from my dishes. I did two loads of laundry last night. My strength comes from the God of my understanding. I had a late start to the day, but did get quite a lot of sleep the last couple of days. I bought some iron pills, and they seem to be slowly giving me more umph, to get things done. It was one of those God moments the way I see it. I wasn't looking for them, had no thought of them, and all of a sudden they were there in front of me staring back at me. I am hoping they will help with the fatigue. Praying and asking for help and open to receiving and all of a sudden, there it was. I don't argue with things that happen like that.  |
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Post by bunnypie on Oct 2, 2016 13:18:00 GMT -5
hope it will help......
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Post by majestyjo on Oct 3, 2016 19:12:47 GMT -5
Just for today, I will try to be my own best friend and give myself a hug. Starting your day at 6:30 p.m. isn't such a good thing. I will watch my favourite shows tonight and hopefully, when bedtime comes, I will be able to sleep.  |
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Post by bunnypie on Oct 3, 2016 19:56:55 GMT -5
Hi JO-----Having messed up sleep patterns really can screw you up! I understand that because I am up and down all night going to the bathroom. The broken sleep makes me so tired!!! I am not willing to wear a diaper or use a bed pan so I just keep getting up to use the bathroom. I think that REST is a wonderful 4 letter word!!!! I hope we can both get some!!! Bunnypie |
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Post by bunnypie on Oct 4, 2016 0:25:20 GMT -5
I am up after 4 hours of sleep. I went on a bathroom run and wanted to post the chip for today as long as I was up. It is after midnight so it is offically a new day........Bunnypie
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Post by majestyjo on Oct 4, 2016 2:49:01 GMT -5
Just for today, I will remember hugs not drugs and give someone a hug today.  |
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Post by bunnypie on Oct 4, 2016 5:36:54 GMT -5
A hug is worth a 1000 words!!!
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Post by majestyjo on Oct 4, 2016 7:37:12 GMT -5
I generally ask, "Do you do hugs? or "Would you like a hug?" Some people find it an invasion of space, especially if you don't ask.  |
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Post by bunnypie on Oct 4, 2016 13:47:46 GMT -5
there is a saying "hugs not drugs" so that probably means if some one doesn't want a hug they would prefer drugs???!!!
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Post by majestyjo on Oct 5, 2016 16:25:57 GMT -5
Not necessarily so, some people have problems getting into their space. Sometimes it is just shyness and lack of self-confidence. Hugs not drugs is a NA saying. A slogan like First Things First. Don't pick up no matter what. It is a spiritual substitution for the drug of their choice. Alcohol is a drug. Go to a meeting and get a hug. My sponsor told me, "Remember you are only half a hand shake. You have to reach out to others.  |
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It is easy to say but hard to do. It can be done!!!------Bunnypie 
. I will be back looking for Lin and others.