focus on today

[Lin]

When i focus on today and not dwell on my life as a child, my life has alot more serenity.

I can look back without staring. I can do the next rigth thing TODAY. Obsessing about the future is also not my best plan. The scenarios I play in my head about the future rarely turn out that way.

If i focus on today and do what i need to do to get through today, it's not so overwhelming.

I can't change the past. I CAn change how i choose to look at it. Instead of reminding myself the terrible things my parents may have done or neglected when I was a child, I ahve learned to look for a few positive things and keep THOSE in my mind. I look back at them as doing the best they were able to do. They tried. They were not any Ozzie and Harriet by any means (shoing my age..>LOL) but they did the best they could.

Focus on today...leave the hurtful parts of the past behind. Find gratitude in today and deal with the future as it happens. That's my plan.

How do you focus on today?

LIN

[Caressa2]

Today as you say is all I have. What I bring from my past is my old tapes, my old behaviors and beliefs, and that is what I need to change in today.

If I want a peaceful and serene life, then if I work on my recovery today, it will make for a better tomorrow.

If I keep looking over my shoulder at my past, then I miss out on today. It can also cause me to trip up in today because I am not watchful of the direction I am taking. The decision I make in today are based on yesterday's exeriences instead of the good orderly direction from my Higher Power, if I am not focused and spiritual connected in the moment.

[Lin]

I wrote this a few days ago. The last few days ahve been tense...dealing with a dysfunctional family who enjoys lying and supporting each other in their lies.It's been very hard to focus on today. I've had to focus on this one hour..or these 5 minutes. I've cried so much the alst 2 days i even took a 30 min nap this morning. I never take a nap. Once I'm up i'm UP. does not matter if its 1 am or 4 am. I'm up for the day.

Fosus on today. Let go and let God. Live and let live. Gonna have to start consciously doing these things a little better.

LIN

[caressa]

Remember my friend, there is no right way or wrong way, all we are asked to do is try.

It is a program of practice, and for me application. I can only do what I can do in today. I can't go into those coulda, shoulda, if onlys, not that I don't, but I try to bring myself back when I am aware that is where I am at.

Really, all we do have is the moment. When you think of it, even an hour ago is old news. The day can start in the moment, just for today, I choose....